My name is Falmata, not real names. I was married to my husband and we live a happy life, but he later changed and I couldn't verified his whereabouts.
Although, I sometimes questioned him of his actions, but he kept telling me that all is well, and he is still the person I knew.
I was there when the insurgents attacked. When my husband would return home, his clothes would sometimes be stained with redish colour.
My children would ask questions that I barely had answers to. later I discovered my husband’s real identity, he was arrested and taken to prison.
I lived with guilt, had sleepless nights and could not stop asking why this should happen to me and my kids.
When I made some investigations, I discovered my husband was a member of Boko Haram.
After his verdict i moved to modern host community where I now live with my four children.
I faced many challenges, on my arrival, I was called a Boko Haram wife because people knew my story.
My children would go out and return home crying because other parents stopped them from hanging around their children and would chase them away. I knew how these things were, I can't explain how I felt.
The first International non governmental organisations session I attended was the community dialogue and immediately I felt comforted.
I went home to my kids, played with them and found ways to encourage them. That night we all slept in peace and we felt safe.
Also I attended support session for women and girls around stigma reduction. Gradually, i started noticing the transformation in her emotional and social life.
People in the community began to visit my apartment and started to include me in their community activities, people started to care about me and my children.
I can remember when a woman visited me one morning to apologise for judging me and saying many things to me.
When I asked her why she apologised, she said she attended one of International sessions the previous afternoon, it made her think about her actions and made her remorseful.
This made me so happy. I don't know if this makes sense, but these organisations has been my source of joy.
They have impacted my life positively and I am so happy that I could take part in these life changing sessions.
Presently, I live a happy life with my children, even though my husband wasn't together with me, and upon everything, I still loves my husband, and I always wished to be with him again.
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