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AN ADVICE TO MY SISTER'S in (islam)


Some ladies today says "I want a guy who has a car, a guy a has a flat or mansion, I need a guy who's dark and tall else I won't marry him."

Really! So you want a guy to have all this things before you marry him? Do you have range rover yourself? Do you have a mansion? Do you have all these things that you're requesting from the guy? 

Please let's appreciate all the things that Allah blesses us with, Because if we don't and keep on demanding all this things, you'll keep on eating rice every weekend at your friends weddings till you die.

What we should look for in a guy is TAQWAH, MANNERS, CHARACTER, HOW RELIGIOUS a guy is among others and not material things.

May Allah increase us in Iman, guide us to His right path and grant all singles pious spouses. Aameen.

 


Seven things you must avoid in your waleematu-nikkah


الحمد لله والصلاه والسلام على رسول الله أما بعد:


1. Israaf


You want people to eat Amala,iyan,fufu, porridge,kebsha, Chinese rice,hmmm!!Sha don't do israaf(wastage)


وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا وَلَا تُسْرِفُوا إِنَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمُسْرِفِينَ


eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allah) likes not Al-Musrifun (those who waste by extravagance).


Surah Al-Araf, Verse 31:


2. Wedding pictures


Must you show the world u have a beautiful spouse?Or u think keeping the wedding pictures to keep memory alive is a nice and dandy idea? Picture this hadith in your mind first,

ﺇﻥ ﺃﺷﺪ ﺍﻟﻨﺎﺱ ﻋﺬﺍﺑﺎ ﻋﻨﺪ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻳﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﻘﻴﺎﻣﺔ ﺍﻟﻤﺼﻮﺭﻭﻥ


The most severely punished people on the Day of Resurrection would

be the image-makers. [Bukhaari and Muslim]


1. Music


Planning on playing and inviting DJ or musicians to entertain your guests with Islamic Music? Think twice. Islam has no music.


 " ﻟﻴﻜﻮﻧﻦ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻣﺘﻲ ﺃﻗﻮﺍﻡ ﻳﺴﺘﺤﻠﻮﻥ ﺍﻟﺤﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﺤﺮﻳﺮ

ﻭﺍﻟﺨﻤﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﻤﻌﺎﺯﻑ ..


“Among my ummah there will certainly be people who permit zinaa,

silk, alcohol and musical instruments…” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari)


4. Tabarruj


Looking good on the day of your nikkah is a good idea,but if you must make up,then use niqob


وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى


And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance,


Surah Al-Ahzab, Verse 33:


5⃣ *Inviting only the rich*


This will make your nikkah food to be the worst ever,because the needy people (poor) are prevented from it


ﺷَﺮُّ ﺍﻟﻄَّﻌَﺎﻡِ ﻃَﻌَﺎﻡُ ﺍﻟْﻮَﻟِﻴﻤَﺔِ ﻳُﻤْﻨَﻌُﻬَﺎ

 ﻣَﻦْ

ﻳَﺄْﺗِﻴﻬَﺎ ﻭَﻳُﺪْﻋَﻰ ﺇِﻟَﻴْﻬَﺎ ﻣَﻦْ ﻳَﺄْﺑَﺎﻫَﺎ


“The worst food is the food of a wedding banquet in which the rich are invited but the poor are left out.”

Source: Sahih Muslim

Ar-riyaau


My nikkah must be the talk of the town,it must have no similitude!!! That's riyaau(show-off),why not do it to please the lord of the world?


ﻳﻘﻮﻝ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﺰ ﻭﺟﻞ ﻷﺻﺤﺎﺏ ﺫﻟﻚ ﻳﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﻘﻴﺎﻣﺔ ﺇﺫﺍ ﺟﺎﺯﻯ

ﺍﻟﻨﺎﺱ : ﺍﺫﻫﺒﻮﺍ ﺇﻟﻰ

ﺍﻟﺬﻳﻦ ﻛﻨﺘﻢ ﺗﺮﺍﺀﻭﻥ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺪﻧﻴﺎ ، ﻓﺎﻧﻈﺮﻭﺍ ﻫﻞ ﺗﺠﺪﻭﻥ ﻋﻨﺪﻫﻢ ﺟﺰﺍﺀ ؟


Allah the Exalted will say

to them (who show off), on the Day of Resurrection when

the people are being rewarded for their deeds: Go to those

whom you wished to show off in the world and look for

your reward with them.” (Musnad Ahmad Hadith 23119)


7⃣ *Imitating the kuffar*

Using wedding gown, engagement ring,free mixing with opposite sex,kissing in public ,are all imitations of the kuffar and the prophet says


َ ﻣَﻦْ ﺗَﺸَﺒَّﻪَ ﺑِﻘَﻮْﻡٍ ﻓَﻬُﻮَ ﻣِﻨْﻬُﻢ


ْWhoever imitates a

people is one of them.’” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, hasan sahih)

May Grant us proper understanding. 

Don't forget us in your Du'a please. 


We hope your waleematu-nikaah will be free of all those things. 

✍️student of knowledge As'salato. 

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Aameen CHARACTER Iman

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