Over the years, through college and after college, I’ve had the opportunity to meet some pretty wealthy people. I got to study and learn from them. Some of these people had a lot of monetary wealth and some of them were doing just okay. When I was growing up, I always thought having a lot of money meant you were pretty successful and then I started to realize the complete opposite.
Success without fulfillment is ultimate failure. — Anthony Robbins
There were people I met who owned their own businesses that made millions of dollars however they didn’t have that many friends. They had family issues but tried to hide it behind all material possessions. His children didn’t talk to him a lot. His wife was always angry at him and got into arguments all the time. He would spend most of his time in the office working and working.
Everything on the outside seemed to be so perfect but then as you start to see closer and closer, it was all just a mirage.
I’ve also met people who weren’t doing so great who hated their lives. They didn’t like the 9–5 life. They complained about their commute to work. How they didn’t have time to enjoy after hours with their friends. They weren’t making the money they wanted. The list goes on and on.
I won’t go too much into detail but here’s the point….
Success is subjective. It’s how you see it that matters.
- What’s important to me?
- What kind of life do I want?
- Do I really need all these luxury possessions to make me happy?
- What can I think of right now that I’m grateful for?
- Is the grass really greener on the other side?
The reason we get lost in our own thoughts and tend to think that were not successful is because of the social constructs society imposed on us to believe that success only looks like “this”.
Instagram is called the happiest place on Earth for a reason.
No one posts about their down times or when they’re feeling depressed.
We’re living in a time where we’re dying for attention because we can’t stand to be alone. That’s why we post all the time about how “great” our lives are. We crave validation so we can remind ourselves that we matter or are not unimportant. We follow accounts that make us envious. Then we start to compare our lives to theirs and make ourselves miserable.
When we shift our perspective on what we think we see on our screens to what’s actually going on… we can take a leap forward into a breakthrough.
Take a look at some famous celebrities that have taken their lives because of overdosage or a freak accident. You would think that they had everything you can ever imagine, why would they do that?
Because our minds paint this false picture of success and our egos are constantly looking for more. When we start to think thoughts about “oh his/her life is so much better than mine, my life sucks, why can’t I do that or this, is this really all that life is” we can get lost and sometimes drive us into a deep depression state. We’re searching for more and more when actually we should be understanding ourselves.
What does success really look like?
You are blessed already because you are currently reading this. You are alive. You are breathing.
Let’s start as a collective start to change the narrative on what success is really defined as. Make your own definition of success because most likely, you already are and you don’t see it.
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