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4 Ways To Cope With The Loss Of A Loved One

Losing a loved one can be a highly charged and very traumatic time. Though coping with loss can be a deeply personal experience, there are a few basic and universal steps to the bereavement and grief process. Knowing these steps can help you to work through your grief over the loss of a loved one.

1. A better way to get over the death of a loved one is to take the necessary time to dwell on what you had, what you lost, and what it means for your future. Cherishing the past while learning to exist in your new reality.

2. While it is ok to hurt forever, it is not ok to let that hurt control your life forever. Yes, for a period of time you will likely be unable to fully function. That is understandable, for a while. But eventually, through great introspection, you must realize that you are strong enough to go on. The person you lost, while they were still living, likely helped to build that strength in you. They, along with all the other people you’ve known, your experiences, and your nature, have given you the tools necessary to survive this. And for a time that may be all you are capable of: surviving. But eventually you will discover the ability to truly live again, if you want to.

3. Happiness is an internal choice, not something imposed on us by external forces. Happiness is not the absence of sadness or anger or pain. Nor is happiness the possession of your desires, that is pleasure. Pleasure can be granted by other people, by external objects and forces that we do not always control, but happiness cannot. If you choose to find happiness, you will find it regardless of circumstance. People do not like to take responsibility for our own happiness, we see it as a great burden. I would argue, though, that being responsible for our own happiness is an equally great power. Choose to yield it.

4. There are some losses that we never truly “get over.” And that’s ok. You do not have to get over the loss of a child, spouse, parent, etc. It is ok for that to hurt forever. You should not let that hurt control your life, but you should expect to always feel it. There will always be reminders. A grizzled 60 year old war veteran will never fully get over the loss of his 80 year old mother.

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