Although "some bad comments" tend to be more common among women, there are men who like to talk too much and badly.
But it is not for the simple interest of gossiping; most of the time they do it for very different reasons than the girls.
Let's look at the 9 most common reasons why a man speaks ill of a woman:
1. You don't get what you want from her.
It is one of the most common causes, since he is used to getting what he wants and when he wants it, but the moment you refuse, he will start talking bad about you.
He will seek to defame you in any way. The important thing is not to get carried away by the comments, not to give in to their pressure and clarify the limits.
2. You have an unresolved situation from your past.
Many men have suffered from child abuse by women, so when they reach adulthood they try to get revenge by making you feel inferior.
He may not physically abuse you, but verbal and psychological abuse is such that it makes any woman around him feel bad.
These types of men seem charming at first, but when they trust you, you will notice how he speaks ill of every woman in his life. It is a pattern that is very difficult to change, as they are traumas from your past that require a lot of therapy.
3. He was not home schooled.
Although it seems obvious, it is a more common reason than you think: those who took care of his upbringing never taught him that he should not speak ill of anyone, so it is a behavior that goes beyond trauma, ego or machismo .
He speaks ill of women, men and anyone who causes discomfort in his life. He does not mind telling intimacies nor does he respect the age or the place where he is speaking.
4. Has open childhood wounds.
If you had a difficult childhood with abusive parents - or the absence of a mother figure - you are likely to speak ill of a woman as a way to release your emotions while protecting yourself from the outside world.
If you want to help a man with this type of problem, the main thing is to make him understand that he needs psychological help to heal the wounds and to be able to move towards a future full of healthy relationships where there is mutual respect.
5. You are in an unhappy relationship.
This especially happens if he only speaks ill of his wife. In addition, you are likely to seek extramarital affairs, either solely with the intention of being intimate or simply someone to vent to.
Regardless of whether or not he is right, it is important that you do not let him speak ill of any woman in front of you. If you have problems with someone in particular, you should seek to resolve conflicts with that person, not with third parties, much less defame their reputation.
6. You think you are doing the "right thing".
It may sound strange, but it is one of the reasons why - both men and women - often speak ill of a woman. Although the motives that drive them are different, the reason is the same: they believe that they do good to society by defaming a woman.
Why do you think you are doing the right thing? Well, they consider that this is how they warn that she does not have a healthy or correct behavior. It may be that you do not play a good role as a woman, lover, mother, sister, friend, or daughter.
7. Is envious.
Yes, this is how you read it! Men also suffer from envy and one way to express it is to speak ill of a woman who has achieved all the success they wish they had.
It is very common when they focus on talking about the same woman all the time and seek to see every detail to criticize him: from her clothes, hair, way of walking or speaking, and even her way of acting in front of other people.
8. Suffers from male problems.
If you speak ill of a woman with whom you have had a recent relationship or are unable to have relationships (for whatever reasons), it is very likely that you will express negatively about her in terms of sexuality.
You may be talking about not doing well "in bed" or not having as good a body as you appear. By doing this, he seeks to minimize his own male and performance frustrations as a "man."
9. He is in love with you.
Believe it or not, if a man speaks ill of you and you have found that it is not any of the above reasons, it is very likely that he is madly in love with you, he still does not accept his feelings and does not know how to express it.
How to check or confirm it?
Simple: in addition to speaking badly about you, he plays practical jokes on you, treats you badly in front of others and, when they are alone, treats you well or vice versa.
How to give yourself respect if a man speaks ill of you?
The first thing is to stay calm. There is no worse way to attack this situation than through fighting, yelling, smearing, hurtful, pejorative or rude words.
Depending on the relationship you have with that man, there are several ways to act:
1. If it is your partner.
Ask him why he talks about you like this with other people or even in front of you. Tell him that it is not the way or the way to solve things and that he must change his behavior.
If he is truly committed and seeks the necessary help to change, he is a worthwhile man; But if he gets angry or the situation worsens, it is time for you to think about ending the relationship.
There are many cases that go from verbal violence to physical violence. We know that it is a difficult situation and more if there are children involved, but you must keep in mind that your tranquility, peace of mind and happiness are worth more than any relationship.
2. If you are a friend or co-worker.
The first thing is to distance yourself from the situation so as not to get involved in the emotions of the moment and make a mistake. Then cut your relationship with that person. If you can't completely stop talking to him, try to make it just what is necessary.
In case his words affect you in any way (they bring you problems with work, with your family, other friends or your partner), you must approach it calmly, assertively and with the objective in mind of discovering what is the cause of why does he speak ill of you.
Once the cause is found, try to solve it: if it is because he is not getting what he wants from you, make it clear to him that the relationship between you has limits that should not be broken; if they are physical or emotional problems, suggest that she find a therapist.
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