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Nothing Puts More Pressure On a Marriage Than Financial Irresponsibility

Although my husband has always made a good living, the nature of his business is “feast or famine” with regard to when and how much money comes in. One year there was a recession in the music business and everybody felt it. Even the companies who owed us money withheld payment because of their own lack of cash flow. It was a frightening time, but it would have been much worse if we hadn’t had faith in the Lord and committed our finances to Him. Our comfort came in knowing that we had obeyed God in tithing our money to the church. “Bring all the tithes into the storehouse” and see if He “will not open for you the windows of heaven and pour out for you such blessing that there will not be room enough to receive it” (Malachi 3:10). We had also been faithful to give to the poor and those in need. “Blessed is he who considers the poor; the LORD will deliver him in time of trouble. The LORD will preserve him and keep him alive, and he will be blessed on the earth” (Psalm 41:1-2). We also knew the Bible promises that “those who seek the LORD shall not lack any good thing” (Psalm 34:10). We certainly were seeking the Lord. We believed that by looking to God as our source and living in obedience to His ways, He would provide for us and we would have everything we need. He did and we do.

So many money problems can be solved by putting all finances under God’s covering and doing what He says to do with them. That means giving when He says to give. When you do, God promises to deliver you, protect you, bless you, heal you, and keep you alive. When you don’t, you will experience the same desolation the poor do. “Whoever shuts his ears to the cry of the poor will also cry himself and not be heard” (Proverbs 21:13). Not giving cuts off your own ability to enjoy what you have and leads to lifelong difficulties.

To be sure, there are wealthy people who do not give. But if you were to check closely into their lives, you’d find that they are missing many of the Lord’s blessings. The blessings of wholeness, protection, love, peace, health, and fulfillment continually elude them and they don’t know why. They gain wealth but lose the ability to enjoy it, all because they don’t know that the key to life is knowing the Lord and living His way. This means giving time, energy, love, talent, and finances according to His direction. Pray that your husband gets hold of this key to life and understands God’s will for his finances. Pray that he becomes a giving person who is content to live within his means and not always striving for more. I’m not saying he should never try to increase his earnings quite the contrary. A man deserves to earn what his work is worth, and his wife should pray he does. Backbreaking drudgery that leads to gut wrenching poverty and with it bitterness, anguish, sickness, and envy should not be accepted as a way of life. By all means pray that the storehouses of blessing will be opened upon him, but pray that it all comes from the hand of God. “The blessing of the LORD makes one rich, and He adds no sorrow with it” (Proverbs 10:22).

It may not be possible to use prayer to avoid every financial problem because God sometimes uses finances to get our attention and teach us things. But your prayers will certainly help protect your husband from unnecessary struggle and loss. God’s desire is to bless those who have obedient, grateful, and giving hearts, whose true treasure is in the Lord. “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21). God wants your husband to find his treasure in Him, not in his finances. 


Lord, I commit our finances to You. Be in charge of them and use them for Your purposes. May we both be good stewards of all that You give us, and walk in total agreement as to how it is to be dispersed. I pray that we will learn to live free of burdensome debt. Where we have not been wise, bring restoration and give us guidance. Show me how I can help increase our finances and not decrease them unwisely. Help us to remember that all we have belongs to You, and to be grateful for it.

I pray that (husband’s name) will find it easy to give to You and to others as You have instructed in Your Word. Give him wisdom to handle money wisely. Help him make good decisions as to how he spends. Show him how to plan for the future. I pray that he will find the perfect balance between spending needlessly and being miserly. May he always be paid well for the work he does, and may his money not be stolen, lost, devoured, destroyed, or wasted. Multiply it so that what he makes will go a long way. I pray that he will not be anxious about finances, but will seek Your kingdom first, knowing that as he does, we will have all we need (Luke 12:31).

In Jesus’ name I pray.



Do not seek what you should eat or what you should drink, nor have an anxious mind. For all these things the nations of the world seek after, and your Father knows that you need these things. But seek the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added to you.

LUKE 12:29-31

As for every man to whom God has given riches and wealth, and given him power to eat of it, to receive his heritage and rejoice in his labor, this is the gift of God.


I have been young, and now am old; yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his descendants begging bread.

PSALM 37:25

My God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

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