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Why Parents Should Avoid Hitting Their Children

For the past many years, physical punishment for children is seriously forbidden by many parents, sociological researchers, and psychiatrists. Still, to make the children disciplined and respectful to others, hitting becomes a common weapon for most of the parents. Every human gets angry at one or the other moment in their life. Similarly, kids also express their anger with their bad behaviour and thereby getting spankings from parents. But there are many negative impacts of hitting on children. Below mentioned are the five reasons why parents should avoid hitting their children.

1. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves

A large body of evidence currently exists to indicate a link between corporal punishment in childhood and aggressive or violent behavior in adolescence and adulthood. Almost all of the most dangerous offenders were threatened and punished on a daily basis as children. Nature intended for children to learn attitudes and behaviors by observing and imitating their parents' activities, for better or worse. As a result, it is the obligation of parents to establish a good example of empathy and wisdom for their children.

2. Punishment distract the child from learning

We stop learning dead in its tracks when we make a youngster fearful." A punished youngster is consumed with feelings of rage and dreams of vengeance, depriving him or her of the opportunity to develop more effective problem-solving techniques. As a result, a chastised youngster does not learn much about how to deal with or avoid such situations in the future.

3. Hitting a child makes them feel helpless and lowers their self-esteem.

When you're warned that if you don't stop sobbing, you'll be hit again, it's difficult to feel like you have any control. It makes a child wonder, "What is wrong with me?" It's difficult to feel loved or have any sense of self-worth when even your calls for help are dismissed by the one who is supposed to love and protect you completely. It's a betrayal of trust.

4. Spanking always results in greater misbehavior.

The issue with spanking is that it works... for the short-term misbehavior. "Stop that right now!" the kids will exclaim. They, on the other hand, dislike the spanking and look for methods to retaliate, whether consciously or unconsciously.

5. Your child is devalued when he or she is hit.

The child's self-image is formed by how he perceives others, particularly his parents. Spanking sends a mixed message even in the most loving homes, especially to a youngster too young to understand why he or she is being spanked. Parents devote a significant amount of effort to instilling a sense of worth in their baby or child, as well as making the child feel "wonderful." The youngster then smashes a glass, you punish him, and he thinks to himself, "I must be bad."

6. Hitting disvalue parents

Parents who spank or otherwise abuse their children frequently feel worthless since something about their method of discipline doesn't feel right to them. They slap (or yell) out of desperation because they don't know what else to do, but when it doesn't work, they feel even more powerless. "I won the battle but lost the war," one mother who stopped beating her children put it. My child is now afraid of me, and I feel as though I've lost something valuable. Spanking also devalues a parent's role. Being an authority person entails being respected and trusted rather than scared.

7. Hitting may lead to abuse.

Punishment escalates. Once you begin punishing a child “a little bit,” where do you stop? A toddler reaches for a forbidden glass. You tap the hand as a reminder not to touch. He reaches again, you swat the hand. After withdrawing his hand briefly, he once again grabs his grandmother’s valuable vase. You hit the hand harder. You’ve begun a game no one can win. The issue then becomes who’s stronger—your child’s will or your hand.

8. Hitting affects the bonding with parents

When children are frequently reprimanded or smacked, they develop a negative opinion of their parents. This will be the most significant chasm between the youngster and the parent. Children adore those who care for them in all circumstances. Punishment may appear to work in some cases to motivate youngsters to behave well, but this is due to fear rather than goodness. Avoid hitting and try to remain calm when training them for such behaviors to ensure that the excellent behavior lasts forever. This fosters mutual enjoyment and understanding between the children and their parents without jeopardizing their relationship.

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