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Dear Parents: A Confident Child May Become A Successful Adult

If you are an adult, you know that having confidence in yourself is key to progress in today's world. Apart from this, happiness also depends a lot on how much we trust ourselves.

Confidence begins to be fostered since we are babies; Of course, parents are the main responsible for this. Everything starts from when the baby begins to become aware that he occupies a place in the world. At an early age the little one begins to relate to the world; In this process, he needs the security that his parents give him to achieve small goals.

I remember when my nephew started taking his first steps. At the beginning he was a little unsure, but clutching chairs and walls his steps became somewhat more secure. One day a friend of the family came and when he saw him walking, he wanted to help him. He picked up the boy and placed him on the ground away from anything that would support him. Excited, the boy began to walk; however, it took a second for her chubby little feet to tangle and she fell to the ground. The blow was strong enough to make him afraid to walk. It took about three months for him to trust his body again to start walking.

In this example 2 things are evident: 1. How much a child can trust an adult; and 2. How easy it is for them to lose confidence in themselves.

Confidence should not be confused with arrogance

Having self-confidence is very valuable because it helps people achieve their goals. Also, it makes you persevering and courageous. However, you have to be careful because the line between confidence and arrogance is very thin .

Trusting in your abilities is not the same as showing off what you have and your virtues. When a person brags to others about his achievements, it generates displeasure. In addition, little by little people of true value move away from him and only unscrupulous beings approach. What they will seek is to seize the moment to use it and show you that you are not as smart and capable as you thought.

That is why in the same way that you teach your child to trust his abilities, you also instill in him humility. This will prevent you from falling ill and being abused by people with a bad nature.

How to build confidence in children

Parents who raise children with great self-confidence do 4 things:

1 They give value to the effort of their children

In the past, what was most valued is that the son always took first place. There is nothing wrong with being competitive; even so, giving prominence to winning rather than valuing effort tells children that if they don't win, the effort loses interest.

In addition, this desire to push children to always "be number one" can make them unscrupulous. Children as adults will be able to do whatever it takes to get what they want.

It is vital that children learn that regardless of the position or qualification they get, their study, the work they did is very important. From now on, the child will trust his abilities more; In addition, he will put more and more effort into what he sets out to do because he feels capable of achieving it.

The action to take when the child fails despite effort is to support and comfort him. Explain that failure is part of success because you learn from mistakes. Show him that failing is not a hole you can't get out of, but a stepping stone to cross to the other side of the road.

2 Congratulating each other is an important rule in your homes

If your children see that you congratulate your partner (father or mother) for their achievements, they will realize that their efforts are also valued.

It is also very important that your child realizes that you yourself feel happy and satisfied with what you do. It is very relevant that he knows that you feel happy about your occupation, because it tells him that you value your efforts.

Of course, congratulating your children for what they do should not be left behind. Saying: "Your room was very clean, I congratulate you" or "Your homework was well done, congratulations", makes the child feel happy and motivated to work hard.

3 They are not afraid to show themselves to their children with strengths and weaknesses

This encourages your child to see himself as a capable human being and not as a super man. It is a vital part of educating in humility.

When you show yourself to your child as someone who, for example, is not capable of skillful cooking, but who draws very well instead, you show them that you are skilled but not perfect .

Speak clearly when you see that he is desperate because there are some things he cannot do. Tell him that all people have things that they can and cannot do and that is not a bad thing; it's just part of being a human being.

4 They value teamwork

When a child learns to work in a team, you teach him to be supportive . In addition, it also teaches him that if he alone is capable of achieving many things, the ones he can achieve with the help of others is greater.

A child who learns to work in a team is a human being who learns to share, to help, to serve others. This keeps him from unhealthy pride, boastfulness, and selfishness; aspects that are far from being compatible with trust.

Finally, you can say that if as a father or mother you help your child to trust more in himself, you will have a human being who will thank you all his life for helping him to be happy.

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