Many child specialists agree that children should not be compelled to apologize when they make a mistake. That does not, however, imply that children should be excused for misbehaving. Adults should use this moment to explain to children why their behavior was inappropriate while also teaching them excellent manners. Forcing a young child to apologize after he bites or punches another child, for example, results in a trite, fake "sorry" statement that has no effect on the child's conduct. So, what are the options for parents and caregivers in these situations?
1. Punishment should be passed on.
Take a deep breath and focus on alternatives to make amends instead of throwing down the gauntlet. Begin by posing the question, "What could you do to make it right?" A verbal apology is a wonderful start, but because children learn best through action, it's also a good idea to follow it up with an act of kindness, such as assisting in the repair of the broken item or drawing a fridge-worthy artwork for the wounded person.
2. Label the behavior as wrong
Parents and caregivers should make it clear to the youngster that the behavior was inappropriate. By doing so, you are teaching children that biting, hitting, and stealing toys are inappropriate and unacceptable behaviors. If you overlook the conduct, you're teaching your child that bad behavior doesn't matter and won't always result in unpleasant repercussions..
3. Be an example of good behavior.
Children don't always know how to improve a problem, but as parents, you can show a better approach. Parents must provide a positive example for their children and educate them how to deal with difficult situations. You want to encourage your child to think of himself as a helpful person who can help others when they have done anything wrong or harmful. Many young children will be unable to find the appropriate words until they have encountered this circumstance several times and have been instructed by their parents on how to approach another youngster.
4. Forgiveness follows apology
After someone has been harmed or insulted, they must apologize and forgive. We teach our kids that we want them to "make peace" with whomever they are at odds with in most common issues. It doesn't have to be a formal spectacle of apologizing. We leave it to them to figure out what it means to "create peace" and how to achieve it. They utilize words sometimes and sometimes they don't. But we all know whether or not they have. Siblings must be at peace with one another in order to live in the same house. Without forgiveness, apologizing is a half-baked process, and it's part of how you educate kids to apologize. To truly heal, the offended party must "drop the charges" by declaring "that's okay" or "I forgive you."
5. Always remember to show your love.
Never make your child feel unwanted when he does anything wrong. Forcing a child to apologize will make him feel much more embarrassed and angry. As a result, the greatest thing you can do is help your youngster comprehend his mistake and come up with a remedy. This process may be difficult at first, but your child will eventually gain responsibility and begin to comprehend the implications of his choices and behavior. He'll start to acquire empathy, and you'll be happy to have raised such a respectful child.
6. Make Your Child Aware of the Negative Effects of Failure to Apologize
If your child refuses to apologize for his actions, talk to him about the repercussions he will experience as a result of his actions. It's possible that his pal will stop speaking to him and refuse to play with him.
Putting some much-needed time between the misconduct and the apology, despite how difficult it may seem at first, will result in a far more honest "sorry." By establishing the empathy needed to learn from their mistakes, you'll discover that your children are more able to understand and accept responsibility for their actions. And the wait was well worth it. However, once you have the apologies under control, you may notice that new troubles occur.
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