When girls say a guy is "nice" in a relationship, what they mean is that he is definitely a people pleaser and is not the average good guy that they want.
Being "nice" and "good" are two different things in relationships. The former quality is often regarded as trying to please your partner at all costs and putting her interests above yours. That sounds like a selfless thing to do but it is usually not the best.
Being "good" on the other hand, means you simply judge situations on the moral aspect and not the emotional aspect.
Though many guys might think that being nice in a relationship is harmless or romantic, the truth is that girls think differently and at best, you might get friend zoned if you have this quality.
These are the things that "nice" guys do in relationships that gets them friend zoned in relationships.
1. Nice guys do everything alone.
When it comes to investing in relationships, the nice guys always want to do all the work. They don't like having their partner contribute to anything because they don't want to "bother" them or they're just being nice.
With this kind of habit, the results are usually bad as the partner wouldn't appreciate all the efforts and might take him for granted. People always value what they work for or participate in and not what was done for them easily.
2. Nice guys overlook bad behaviours.
When a partner doesn't answer calls or fail to show up for meet ups, a nice guy would pretend it doesn't matter even when he's clearly angry. Girls love guys that stand up to them and tell them when they misbehave and not people who pretend all is fine when it is not. This habit of nice guys pretending they don't have feelings makes them less attractive.
3.Nice guys are too available.
Nice guys believe that since they are in love with a girl, the best way to show love or that they care is when they stick around all the time. This can backfire as the girl would grow tired of seeing them all the time and might make them lose value.
The law of scarcity explains that people value things that are not easily available to them, rather than the ones easily available. If you're in a relationship, you should try as possible to get a life for yourself and enjoy what you love doing rather sticking around like her handbag all the time.
4.Nice Guys agree to everything.
One of the most obvious signs to know that you're a nice guy is when you seems to agree with your partner all the time over everything. Your girl says she likes swimming and you immediately say you like swimming also just to please her, even when in reality you are scared of water!
Girls only like guys that are true to themselves and have their own opinions and not the ones that are clueless.
5. Nice guys are people pleasers.
A people pleaser is someone who tries very hard to make others happy even when it is inconvenient for him/her. Nice guys also have this terrible habit of always going to whatever extent just to make their partner happy even when it is inconvenient for them.
This might look like a good thing or or selfless act, but the reality is that you might get taken for granted or used as a footmat by others.
So guys, don't be a ''nice'' guy, but be a good guy and a great guy. Good luck.
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