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14 Ways Introverts Can Have A Successful Relationship

I like to think that introversion can be closely knit with the love of creativity and an introspective overview of the arts.

Still, while I choose not to identify as an introvert but just a full-blown homebody, I wrote this as a personal wish list, well-now a personal guide, for those couples who are really into the intimate, dreamy and soft side of romance and expressive affections.

So, if you’re not the type to do the most but in your heart, the thoughts are what counts, here are a few ways for you and your special person.

1. Gratitude: (that matches each partner’s love languages, just because two people are introverts doesn’t mean their love languages are automatically the same). Living with gratitude increases the perceived worth of a relationship, and encourages partners to continue feeling invested.

2. Similar values: Values don’t have to be perfectly aligned, but similar values help with avoiding clashes where disagreements may seem like personal attacks.

3. Shared joys and pain: To be present when going through an emotional event is the deepest honor, and can increase connection with others.

4. Vulnerability: Our partners are sometimes the only people we can allow ourselves to be vulnerable with. This can be in the form of talking about worries, fears, or past experiences that shaped us.

5. Encouragement: When times are difficult, or when we’re in a really good place, it’s nice to have someone genuinely believe in your strengths or abilities to accomplish more.

6. Similar views and needs for intimacy: When one partner does not want to be intimate as often as another, it may not always be an issue. It may still be an important topic to discuss to have an honest guideline on what each partner wants and needs to feel connected.

7. Agreed-upon me and we times:

Even introverts want to chat and spend time with other people. It’s more of a range with extroverts and introverts dating, but two introverts may still require talking about how much time is essential to have social needs met, and what compromises can be made.

8. Successful conflict repair attempts: Conflicts happen as opportunities to expand perspective, and understand others and oneself more clearly. Repair attempts are important in determining how successful a relationship may be. It may take several attempts, and after time, patterns with similar issues may pop up. This can be a sign for seeking additional help. (seeking help isn’t a bad thing! Relationship therapists can help translate misunderstandings and increase coping tools for successful conflict resolutions).

9. Knowledge of each other’s dreams, fears, greatest accomplishments: To know of a person’s dreams, fears, and accomplishments in depth is to know what drives them, their innermost being. These bits of information can help guide a relationship with how to encourage one another to heal and grow.

10. Ability to trust each other without knowing where each other are 24/7:

Trust is huge. Mistrust can instill doubt into a relationship, and increase stress with feeling watched all the time. Trust can alleviate doubt in the relationship, and increase openness to communicate without fear of judgement.

11. Honoring each other’s pasts, and helping each other work through things without pushing any agendas, or using the past against one another.

12. Self-care: One doesn’t compensate for the work the other has to do. it is a team effort to support the health of the relationship to care for oneself as needed, and respectfully sharing this need with one’s partner. Part of self care is knowing when one needs to take breaks (me time, or breaks during high conflict moments).

13. Ownership: Shame and blame are powerful. Owning one’s part of conflict can help relationships heal and grow. Understanding one’s role in putting in efforts to make things work is proactive. “You always do this. You never do this. It’s your fault…” is not constructive, and can make it difficult for partners to address concerns in the future if they fear being blamed for things. “What can we do to work on this? I forgot to do it. How can I improve with this next time?” are supportive statements that are open to problem solving.

14. Play: It’s important to play together. After adulting for so long, and working towards responsibilities related to financial well-being and professional goals, many relationships lose a very important component, which is to play. Playing together reduces stress, increases joy and successes, and can promote team-building and frustration tolerances. Playing games can also improve emotional well-being (with the appropriate level of difficulty) and sense of accomplishment as a couple. Playing can also increase effective communication strategies (if in the beginning communication is difficult… it will take time to learn how to talk to one another to work towards a goal).

Thanks for reading!!!

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