So, the person you’re with had a tumultuous breakup in their past. You were totally cool with it when you first found out. After all, who doesn’t have a past! But now you can’t seem to shake off the feeling that something isn’t quite right.
You feel he/she is not over their ex. On the surface, everything seems great, yet there is one hiccup – a part of them still displays the signs that someone is not over their ex.
You may feel that they suddenly became withdrawn or there is a part of them that you just can’t seem to reach.
They brush it off as nothing. But is it really nothing? To help you put an end to that dilemma, let’s look at some of the classic signs he/she is not over their ex.
They Suggest Doing The Same Things With You That They Used To Do With Their Ex
If your partner is still hung up on their ex, they may suggest doing the same things that they used to do with their past partner. For instance your partner may want to keep going to a restaurant that holds a lot of memories of their past relationship, or go bowling every other Thursday night because that's what they used to do with their ex.
"People that are still connected to their exes will still have emotional connection to the things and places they associate with them.
They Still Keep Photos Of Their Ex
This one is pretty obvious, but if your partner still keeps photos of their ex around, they're not over them. "It might be in their wallet, on their desk, or somewhere more hidden than that, but it's something they'll refuse to get rid of because they're 'still friends.
He Still Seems Angry With Her.
Past relationship wounds can still sting, but the feelings we have about those former partners should ebb over time.
Some guys have physically broken up, yet haven't emotionally let go and they stay connected through conflict. So if he's still talking about the bad things she did in the past, he's trying to remind himself that he’s not still in love with her — because he is still in love with her.
He's Still Mourning The Relationship.
It's normal to be sad about a breakup, but not after you're in another relationship. Your guy may not still be in love with his ex, but if he continues to act depressed about what went down between them, then he hasn't put it behind him.
She Holds On To Mementos From Her Ex.
Even after you've told your partner that these mementos from her ex make you uneasy, she refuses to give them up, and this presents one of the biggest signs that your partner is refusing to move on from old memories of her previous relationship.
Your partner may get annoyed and make up excuses, or say they'll get rid of these things, but never seem to get around to doing it. You may also notice your partner looking at items, or holding them, and looking wistfully into the distance.
He Compares the Two of You.
One sign that your partner misses their ex is that they openly compare you to them.
Even if they are complimenting you in the comparison, it is typically not a good thing.
It's natural to occasionally think about and compare or contrast things about the people we've dated, but if your partner voices those comparisons, it means that they are thinking about them more than what is healthy.
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