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How To Be More Romantic In A Relationship

Whether you’ve been a partner for six months, six years or over six decades, light romantic gestures can help cut the monotony weeds that can make a relationship feel a little less glamorous than the movies. And while movies like Love Actually and When Harry Met Sally can spark ideas to be sweet, chocolates and roses don’t always do the job in real life.

 The effort to add more romance is not just for people who want to avoid getting stuck in a loveless marriage (or a sexless marriage); Any couple can benefit, no matter what content they may already have. So for some inspiration on how to be more romantic - without spending a small fortune - we turned to the pros.

 According to Arthur Aron, a PhD - a professor of psychology at Stony Brock University who has dedicated his life’s work to the study of love and intimacy - the formula for making them more romantic includes kindness, attention and a mix of shared activities. It is also found in an open conversation, which he encourages with "The 36 Questions That Lead to Love," a list of questions approved by the New York Times that everyone should answer with someone special. The questions range from "Given someone's choice in the world, who would you like as a dinner guest?" To "How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?"

 “You can have a very high sense of passion and romance, even in a long-term relationship,” Arun says.

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 However, all the suggestions in the world will not help if you do not put your head in a critical eye for yourself. At the very least, this is the philosophy of Peter Pearson, Ph.D., a relationship expert who co-founded the California Couples Institute, the instrument for marriage counselors and other caregivers to improve couples' shared lives.

 Pearsons insists that people reflect on why their relationship is important before they consider the union they hope to create and what their goals are. “It will give you and your partner the motivation to do the work that will be necessary to reach that goal,” Pearson says.

 However, consider the following tips to be more romantic as a starting point to meet your and your spouse's needs.

 First, get the job done - for yourself.

 Before focusing on your spouse, Arun suggests you pay attention to yourself. "A happy person will make their spouse happy too," he says. Look for any red flags in it, and ask yourself if you are dealing with issues such as depression, anxiety and low self-esteem that need to be addressed - or if your communication skills allow you to hear and respond to your partner's needs.

 Plan a fun activity once a week.

 Passed the honeymoon stage? An easy method to restart the flame is to try something new together. You don’t have to participate in a thrilling sport like skydiving, but simple pastimes like trying out a new kitchen or taking a cooking class can increase passion. As a result, you will learn to associate excitement and excitement with your partner, says Arun.

 Celebrating even the smallest successes.

 Let your spouse know that their accomplishments are worth commemorating when something good happens to them (like a promotion, or a wave of luck). "It has a more positive effect than just supporting them in times of difficulty," Arun notes. To do this, plan a special homemade dinner or write them a card as a way to shout your excitement from the mountain peaks.

 To revisit - or get to writing - these vows.

 Pearson encourages couples to re-read or write new vows as a way to work on the marriage, by remembering in the first place the qualities that brought them together. If you are not married, he suggests putting a pen on the paper. “These vows are better than any tips any expert can give them,” Pearson says.

 Think of new and creative conversation points.

 These date nights are not so special if they are spent discussing work, politics or everyday life. Instead, Pearson urges couples to swap things by asking unexpected questions. For example, ask what your spouse thinks (other than work) during their daily commute, or what quality of yours they value most, so that you can express it more often. Even childish queries like, "What superhero power would you like to have?" good worker. Then they asked what they were willing to give up to gain that power.

 Make friends with other couples.

 It may sound like taxation, but cultivating warm and intimate friendships with other couples can bring you closer, says Arun.

 This will foster a sense of mutual support and allow you to have deeper conversations that you both may not have had on your own. shy? A little rusty? No problem - check out these tips on how to make new friends as an adult.

 Regularly tell your partner what you like about them.

 It does not cost anything to be grateful - and expressing gratitude to someone shows that you notice and appreciate their efforts. Do you appreciate their compassionate nature, or perhaps you like their energetic approach at the beginning of each day? Be specific about which qualities you value most to indicate that you are paying a lot of attention. Eventually, small efforts to demonstrate consciousness will make the partner feel seen.

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