There is a very big difference between infatuation and being in love. Infatuation is when you first see someone that you are attracted to and immediately feel that there is a connection based on that, where as love is knowing the good and bad of someone and still loving them all the same. By knowing the difference about being infatuated with someone and loving them, you will know if you are with the right person.
Infatuation is a fast fantasy. Being infatuated with someone requires no thinking. You do not know anything about the person you are attracted to. This is a very quick attraction. As soon as you see the person, you are already fantasizing about your future together without knowing anything about them. You already believe that things are going to work out for the both of you based on appearance only. Infatuation is automatically filling in the blanks for that person and hoping that things will work out the way you want.
Love is a reality that takes time. Being infatuated is an instant crush on someone that you see for the first time. Love on the other hand can take more time to get to that stage. Everyone is different in how long it takes to fall in love. Love requires meeting someone for the first time and not knowing what to expect. It may take few dates to realize that you are in love. Love is seeing into the person's humanity, where their strength and weakness lies. You love them on a good day and like them on a bad day.
Infatuation is expecting perfection when you first look at your love interest, you already believe they are perfect without knowing them. You think that because they look attractive, it means their personality will be the same. In our minds, they must always look beautiful, be strong, courageous and exhibit no blemishes. In reality, people have a lot of sides and you cannot choose which ones you would prefer to make an appearance. If we see any imperfections in our patner, it will destroy the illusions we placed on our patners that made us happy.
Love is being real: Love is all about being comfortable in revealing your true self. We feel comfortable in exposing memories that may be embarrassing or hard to talk about. We also reveal our true selves in the way we look. Our patner has seen how we look without makeup or with our rough hair when we wake up. It is the same as we get older as we are not going to look the same when we first met. We will either loose our hair or it will go grey, get wrinkles, we will gain weight, loose joints etc if someone really loved you, they will not care how you look because they love you so much. You will always be beautiful to that person.
Infatuation makes you want self perfection: Infatuation makes us only see the good in our patner, it also means giving our patner's a perfect image for ourselves. We want the illusion that we created to stick. This can only mean telling our patners the good thing about our day or going extreme to look perfect by wearing too much makeup to hide blemishes. We are giving our patner's a superficial self in fear that they will leave us and our illusion will be shattered. The love you two have for each other will mean more than any flaws you two exhibit. Love means that your patner knows that you are not perfect and can accept that.
Love is timeless: love means that what you feel for each other will never go away no matter where you are. Your patner may have to go on a business trip that can take months but breaking up is not an option for you guys. Love does not have an expiration date in that you both want forever with each other. Infatuation on the other hand, is just a fleeting moment. You may feel intensely about that person but you cannot imagine being with that person for the rest of your life.
Infatuation is obsession: People who are infatuated may think that they are in love with their love interest because of how much they care for them. You may feel like you need to call that person to check up on them or even follow them. They could be out with their friends but you make your patner feel guilty for not being with you. This can be very tiring for you to be on constant alert with your patner and not trusting them. This type of love is really an obsession. Love means being willing to let that person go to spend time alone. Love also means that you are calmer and can feel the love you have for that person uplift you since you feel secure in that relationship. Being in love is having the confidence to know that the person you see when you wake up in the morning is the one you want to be with for the rest of your life.
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