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Self Control: An Overcomer's Secret To Defeating Infidelity In Marriage

Some married couples, who find themselves cheating every now and then and still goes to confess to their spouse, then still cheats again, might have been facing failures in their resolutions.

However, this article is not only for those who are willing to quit, but also for those who have not found out they need a change.

As you may have experienced yourself, resolutions does not always give lasting solutions to quiting of habits like chain smoking, prostitution, drunkenness and so on.

Determination is needed to stop any bad habit anyways, but it has not been genuinely enough.

God alone have the answer to success in living a holy life and maintaining purity in marriage.

This is why we are considering "Self control" in this article. Jesus Christ was not found committing sin in his days on earth because that divine nature of God was in quantum in his life.


The use of modern technologies which exposes people to the negative effects of the internet and social media, increasing rate of indecent dressing and materialistic nature of human being, which is seen in the way people run after money at the expense of anything; has made quitting or marital purity difficult for so many. The bitter truth is that, it is just natural when people find it challenging to stop the habit of cheating, and genuinely have control over it.

The good news however, is that one can actually over come it through the divine help of God, hence this scriptural secret 'self control '.

Self control is the most reliable way to quit cheating. It is a supernatural gift of the Holy Spirit, that is made available to the natural man.

In 2 Peter 1:5-8 the Bible says; ' for this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith, goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self control; and to self control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.

The above Bible verse is clearly saying that faith, goodness, knowledge and perseverance come together to build self control in a person in order to produce godliness, mutual affection and love in action.

The Holy Spirit gives us power to overcome whatever we determine to overcome in our journey of life.

Self control is built by adequate studying of the word of God and prayerfully asking him to strengthen and make sin a slave to you, that is, under your feet and not otherwise.

In 1 Corinthians 6:12, the Bible says "I have the right to do anything, you say, but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything but I will not be mastered or ruled by anything. This chapter in the Bible emphasises self control too. The will-power to say "no" to anything that is detrimental to you, and that also includes cheating on your spouse.

In 1 Corinthians 6:19, the Bible also says;

'Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God?'

Deep knowledge that the Holy Spirit is in you, gives you Supernatural restrictions from sin. Lust for other men or women other than your spouse no matter the temptation shall not hold you down anymore, you will flee instead.

Ask God for help to conquer this tool of the devil in destroying destinies and families, and you will be glad you did. This is because the benefits and blessings of clinging to your wife or your husband alone are without boundaries.

Those benefits includes:

1. The trust and respect your spouse will accord to you.

2. The spiritual freedom that you will enjoy. Because the Bible says that ' he who joins his body with a prostitute, becomes spiritually one with him or her', but he who joins his body with Christ becomes spiritually one with him.

3. The blessings of God will rain on you and your family ceaselessly.

4. You will be free from every social and religious scandal or crime.

5. And finally, deadly sexually transmitted diseases will be far from you and your spouse.

However, strive to be a perfect man or a perfect woman, and also a diligent child of God for he is able to reward you awesomely.

God's grace.

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