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4 Biblical Mistakes Those Who Blame Men for Marrying Women Older Than Them are Making.

Some hours ago, popular Nollywood actor Stanley Nze narrated to BBC Pidgin how people have been abusing him verbally for marrying a woman older than him. You will equally agree with me that this is not the first time men will come under verbal criticism for marrying women older than them. That is why I think it is high time I drew people's attention to the four biblical mistakes they are making any time they attack men for marrying women older than them.

1. They are mistaking biblical description for its prescription. In Genesis 2:21-22, the Bible says, “So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”

Now, because God first made man and use the rib from Adam to make a woman for him, they think a man should therefore be older than his wife. The Bible only gave us a description of how God made us, it never states it as a law that man should be older than his wife. People should therefore stop attacking men who married women that are older than them because God who instituted marriage never said so.

2. Love is more of a companion and not of age. Genesis 2:18 says, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

God never said it is not good for a man to marry a woman older than him but that the man should not be alone. Marriage is more of a companion. It is more of marrying someone you love that will be your suitable helper as the Bible said. So, blaming men who married women older than them shows ignorance of God's word and what marriage is all about.

3. It is not a new thing. The Bible indirectly gave us series of people who married women older than they were. I will be looking at the children of Judah from his wife, Shuah. In the book of Genesis 38:6-11. The Bible narrated how Judah got a wife for his first son Er, who later died and the same woman was given to the second son, Onan who died also, and finally, the woman was to marry the youngest son, Shelah. Verse 11 says, “Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Live as a widow in your father’s household until my son Shelah grows up...”

Note the condition was that the boy was too young to marry her and not that the woman was too old for him.

Also in the book of Matthew 22:25-26, the Bible says, “Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh.”

The Bible passages above told us how a woman married seven brothers from the eldest son to the last one. Let's assume the first son senior the woman with two years and that she was the age-mate of the second son. By the time you put two years intervals between their ages, you will see that the woman was like ten years or more older than the last man she married. So, if people of old never frowned at it, why are people blaming men who married women older than them in this 21st century?

4. Jesus did not condemn it. In Matthew 22:25-30, the Bible narrated how some Pharisees came to Jesus to tell him about a woman who married seven brothers and asked him who will be the husband of the woman when they resurrected. After they were done, Jesus never condemned the woman for marrying men who were older than her, he only said in verses 29-30, “Jesus replied, “You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.”

So, if God didn't condemn men marrying women older than them if the people of old have been practicing it and if Jesus never condemned it too, why then should people blame men who do that today?

Marrying a woman you are older than or who is older than you is not the criteria for a lasting peaceful marriage, What matters in marriage is your joy and happiness.

All Bible passages are from New International Version(NIV).

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