Small changes are beneficial to a relationship and are frequently encouraged. It's good if you're happy and satisfied with the improvements you make in yourself or the promises you make to your partner about your relationship. However, this does not imply that you must change your entire personality. Being unable to recognize yourself after a few years, or even just a few months in a relationship, can be detrimental to you and your relationship. It's one thing to make your partner happy, but doing everything you can to please him or her isn't a good idea. Read on to know about ways to not lose yourself in a relationship.
1. Don't lose "I" in "We"
When you're not with him, don't bring him up in every conversation you have, and don't text him when you're with your friends or family. It's not just annoying for others; it's also about being overly concerned with your own well-being. All of this may appear to be good at the outset of a new relationship, but it is not sustainable in the long run. It's fine to refer to yourself as "we" when it's appropriate, but don't forget that you have an "I" as well.
2. Improve your self-confidence
Self-esteem can be greatly improved by reading books in the personal development department. When your insecurity rules you, it's difficult to believe in yourself. However, the good news is that it is there for you to work on, not ignore, and those self-help books will assist you along the path. It's also a quick and easy approach to learn more about yourself. Nothing compares to the sense of being completely satisfied with who you are and knowing that you'll be alright in or out of the relationship you're in right now.
3. Learn to feel at ease when expressing your feelings
This implies you can no longer hold back things you want to say because you're worried your partner won't accept them. We can get so caught up in our thoughts that we make inaccurate assumptions when all we need to do is speak up. You can't stand certain things? Rather than playing the silent game, tell your companion. In the long run, you'll only hurt yourself.
4. Keep in touch with your family
Even though our families are dysfunctional and eccentric, they are still family. You'll need family relationships no matter what kind of love relationship you bring into your life. Your ancestors are your ancestors. It's critical to find a means to keep connected to your roots in order to stay connected to yourself. One of the finest ways I recovered from losing myself in my last relationship was to lean on my family. They reminded me of the person I'd always been, and they were there to help me get back on my feet when I fell. Of course, not everyone is blessed with a supportive family.
5. Consider marriage as a part of your life's journey, not the destination.
Couples who have been in a serious relationship for a long time will anticipate to marry in the future; otherwise, why waste time? Growing up in a small part in Lagos, I've known far too many of my childhood friends who saw marriage as their sole and ultimate objective.As a result, no matter how much money you make, you'll be regarded a failure in life if you haven't married yet. It doesn't matter to them whether you're married or not.The trouble with believing that marrying your lover will complete your life and that there will be nothing worthwhile to pursue afterward is that it is quite risky. I'm not suggesting that your relationship shouldn't be a key priority, but it can't be your sole one. If you allow yourself to explore life, you will find that there is so much more to discover.
6. Unconditionally love yourself
Remember that they fell in love with you before you were in a relationship. They were captivated to the "you" who existed in the absence of "him/her." So, never let that individual leave. It's wonderful to fall in love. But don't forget to show yourself some love. You and your partner have separate lives in addition to your shared life. Balance has always been the key to success in every endeavor, and this is no exception.
7. Set boundaries
Keep in mind that limits aren't the same as walls. You don't have to keep every lover away from you because you're afraid of being hurt. However, it's usually a good idea to establish appropriate boundaries right away. Establish the relationship's ground rules. How much room do you require? What elements of your life are you not allowed to discuss? What are the most important things to you? If your spouse wants to be in a healthy relationship with you, he will want to set limits for himself as well. It's usually preferable for two independent people to join together while maintaining their own space and hobbies.
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