Men prefer to take things easy, break no rules, and revel in their bachelorhood. What happens, though, when they find their genuine love, their soulmate, the true love of their lives? Needless to say, their world brightens, and they long to be with that special someone at all times. If something similar to this has just happened to you, consider yourself extremely fortunate. You must also ensure that you are the correct choice for her, just as you have discovered the right one for yourself. And there are a few habits you must break in order to do so. So, here's a list of some of them.
1. Trying to change who you are in order to be loved more.
Changing your personality, surrendering your principles, and changing yourself to match someone else is never a long-term solution. Knowing and living by your principles is an important part of mental toughness. Your internal convictions must be consistent with your outward demeanor. If you change in order to be liked, your mental muscles will gradually deteriorate as your thoughts that you aren't good enough are reinforced.
2. Nagging, lecturing, or pleading
Telling your partner to cut back on their spending or asking them to pick up their socks over and over will wear you down faster than it will change their behavior. Focus on the things you can control, such as your own actions, to keep your mental strength. If you don't like anything your partner does (or doesn't do), make a commitment to respond in a way that won't hurt the relationship. An appropriate response could include anything from ignoring the behavior to ending the relationship. However, bear in mind that your duty is to control your emotional response, not the other person's.
3. You should not let her fend for herself
In a partnership, there's nothing wrong with being independent. "However, "it's critical that partners find ways to come together and lean on one another, both literally and metaphorically. Sharing resources is essential in happy relationships. "Assume you're watching TV with your significant other. Do you keep the blanket to yourself or do you share it with them? Or do you make sure that each of you has your own blanket?" This small gesture may appear simple, but it communicates that you and your partner are on an equal footing in your relationship.
4. Suspicions of infidelity that are unjustified.
Suspecting your partner of cheating on you without evidence is a symptom of immaturity. It implies that you regard your partner as a property rather than a comrade. It also reflects inner insecurities, which manifest as a fear of losing and not being good enough for the person you care about.
5. Prolonging an argument
It's a waste of time to drag a dispute out any longer than it needs to be. This is when you've already discussed every detail of a previous disagreement and there's nothing else to discuss, yet your partner insists on bringing it up again and again. This is both unneeded and counterproductive to the relationship's progress.
6. Keeping a grudge.
People make mistake, and partnerships are no exception. Holding on to every minor blunder committed by your partner and refusing to forgive them will only wear your partner and destroy your relationship. Make sure you forgive your partner once they've apologized and the two of you have talked it over.
7. Using someone else to express your feelings.
If you adore someone and are proud of it, why not admit it and tell her openly how you feel? Using your friends or her friends to send messages or express your feelings to her is a lovely thing to do in college. At this point in your life, aren't you yearning for true companionship and a long-term relationship?
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