Building a relationship takes time, and being safe in it takes even longer. Because each individual is distinct, two people may react differently to the same scenario. What you think is obvious to you may require a lot of confirmation from your partner, and vice versa. You must ensure that your partner is at ease in the relationship and is not always doubting it. It takes two to tango, and we're not suggesting that you should be the sole leader. If you're in the gray area, however, we've got some advice for you.
1. Learn to listen
There are a few different approaches to comprehending your partner's anxieties and insecurities. You'll undoubtedly notice actions or routines that suggest a lack of security over time. However, talking about it with your partner is the greatest approach to figure out what's going on. This isn't always straightforward. Many people are hesitant to discuss, let alone confess, their fears. As a result, you may need to wait patiently for your partner to open up. Make sure they know you're there for them. The idea is to pay attention and listen carefully. Not simply to what people say, if they're prepared to talk about it, but also to what they don't say. What do their facial expressions reveal? What are their acts implying? Some of these insecurity-driven actions are easy to identify even if you aren't a psychologist.
2. Address what you can
You can address whatever conditions or difficulties you are able to address if they are willing to disclose (or if you believe you have a very decent understanding of what's going on). This entails seeking for practical solutions to reduce their fears and concerns through your own actions. If your partner is jealous or suspicious, perhaps you can work out a way to be more open about your activities. Discussing this with your partner might help you come up with some reasonable expectations that everyone can live with. Obviously, both couples will have to work hard. You can be completely open about your whereabouts and other activities, but your partner's uneasiness will persist until she discovers strategies to establish trust and overcome insecurity.
3. Don't play games
Nothing is more destructive to a relationship than people's mind games. Mind games are unhealthy, cruel, and extremely aggravating. There is no pride in keeping someone on a knife's edge in order to experience the rush of being pursued. There are none at all. So put an end to the games (and stop waiting two hours before you text back for crying out loud). Taking people for granted is not, and will never be, acceptable.
4. Don't be untrustworthy
It takes a lot of effort to trust someone, especially for people who have come from broken relationships. As a result, it's best to maintain everything as transparent as possible. Shady behavior, such as looking aloof and frigid (in order to appear cool), is not conducive to trust building.
5. Give your partner the impression that they can rely on you.
The knowledge that they have you to count on gives them a sense of security, especially when it matters most. Make your partner believe that you can be a nice friend to him or her in addition to being a lover. Being there for them during their most difficult periods in life might provide them with a sense of emotional security, as well as a assurance that you're not only a committed lover but also a trustworthy friend.
6. Don't entertain other peoples advance
Meeting new people and making friends is natural, but as someone in a relationship, you must also be attentive and aware. Know the difference between friendliness and flirting it's not difficult if you try hard enough. Allowing and accepting blatant attempts from others is a betrayal of your partner. Be mature enough to gently decline or, if required, to be blunt.
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