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Circumstances that heavily influence the time it takes someone to fall in love

Falling in love is one of the best feelings in the world. It often happens unexpectedly but, when it does, everything starts to feel hunky-dory. If you’re dating again or getting to know someone, you’re probably wondering, how long does it take to fall in love?

The following circumstances heavily influence the time it takes someone to fall in love.

Attraction level

The more attracted someone is to you, the easier it is for them to fall in love. If the attraction was measured on a scale of 1 – 10, anything below 5 is an upward battle. Anything above 5 and you have a fair chance.

A rating of 7 and above can be considered a high level of attraction. The attraction is based on more than facial features.

The following features can affect attraction:

Facial features.


Body language.

Body shape.

Tidiness and cleanliness.

Apart from your facial features and voice itself, everything else can be improved or maximized for everyone. I just want to make something clear – physical attraction is not a prerequisite for love. In fact, love itself is an emotion that is cultivated through experience.

Physical attraction is merely one of the common causes of initial desire and infatuation. You could find someone drop-dead gorgeous or handsome but, never fall in love with them because of other important factors.


Of all the contributing factors for falling in love, compatibility is probably the most important. As I mentioned above, you could find someone ridiculously attractive and yet never fall in love with them. Why? Because their character, personality, virtues, values, morals, ethics, and way of thinking doesn’t resonate with you on a deeper level.

More than physical attraction, we desire a true connection. We may be okay being on our own but feeling accompanied by someone who we can have an amazing time with is far more impactful. When you are compatible on many levels, the experience of life tastes sweeter. Given only one choice, we will always choose the one who touches our hearts compared to the one we find most attractive.

Openness for love

Sometimes, attraction can be sky high and compatibility may be through the roof but, that individual just doesn’t have the space to be with someone at that period in time. We may not realize it but, we are capable of putting up walls that are hard to scale over.

This prevents us from feeling love or accepting love from others. When you are closed off to the idea of love, the process becomes far more difficult. It may take you or the other person way longer to fall in love compared to the average person.

Latest relationship status

Someone who has been single for a significant period of time is more susceptible to falling in love in a short space of time compared to someone who has just been dumped. Latest relationship status matters.

If you’re dealing with someone who is rebounding, you can’t trust that they actually are falling in love or if they’re infatuated. The same could be said for someone who is widowed or mourning the loss of a partner. Their relationship status is muddy and it most likely will affect the time it takes to fall in love.

Baggage and unresolved issues from a previous relationship

Irrespective of relationship status, baggage, and unresolved issues are a contributing factor to the time it takes one to fall in love and stay in love.

They may sabotage you when feelings of love start to develop for someone new. They may also trigger insecurity, doubt, and fear which prevents you from falling in love easily. I think this is a huge problem for people because it can either stop or impede the development of love.

Time spent with each other

The more time you spend with someone, the more experiences you have with them. Developing a strong connection is far easier with someone you spend time with, compared to a person who goes missing for days or weeks at a time.

Time and experiences can trigger love almost unexpectedly. That’s why it’s important to spend time with someone, even if you don’t have an initially high level of physical attraction for them. You may find yourself falling madly in love with this person and their attraction level skyrocketing as a result of that.

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