Children should always expect love and care from their parents but what to do if the parents are toxic.
How would you feel if I told you that in 2008 the US Department of Health and Human Services reported by the Children and Family Administration that more than 100,000 children were officially victims of emotional abuse?
What hurt words cause grief, they can leave scars and memories for a short period of life, come from loved ones like parents, and can cause mental and emotional harm to many people, especially their children.
The way parents raise their children and we've said around them that the basic reasons that have built up their personality and self-esteem, how do you know if a parent is toxic, here are 8 things Toxic parents say they can affect what a child does for life.
DEFENSIVE WORDS TOWARDS THEIR PARENTS
You are ugly, too fat, too small, too thin or your ugly spots.
Humiliating a child on the basis of his appearance will increase his physical insecurity and worry about his body image. This can lead to serious emotional problems such as eating disorders. Parents should teach their children how to love themselves, even when they are out.
PROVOCATIVE QUESTIONS TOWARDS ACTIONS
Why do you act so strangely? Why do you walk this path and talk about how it works?
These ironic questions and remarks can make the child feel that something is wrong, because the children trust him at the request of the parents. Therefore, it is very difficult for children to live like adults. And they got them into trouble, for fear that others might laugh at them or that their poisonous parents would see their plight.
I wish you were never born. I wish I have an abortion. Sorry to have you. I wish you were a different kid.
Parents should never say something like this to a child. This will make them feel like they weren't meant to exist in this world in the first place, that they don't deserve to be alive.
These comments are so harmful to a child, to a human being in general. Decrease your sense of identity, which can lead to self-harm and early depression. Instead, parents should make them feel loved and valued.
MAKING THE CHILD FEEL LIKE A BURDEN
You cost me too much money. It's so hard to take care of yourself. You exhaust me.
When a parent says this to their child, the child feels like a burden, causing them to subconsciously hide their needs, feelings, and problems just to avoid the parent's anger.
Why don't you like your siblings and other children being children other than you?
This greatly reduces the child's self-esteem and makes them feel that no matter how hard they try, it won't help.
Comparing siblings to each other only promotes a healthy relationship between the siblings. This should make them jealous, and resentment towards each other should give them equal rights to form their own independent identities.
VERBALLY ABUSIVE WORDS ARE STATEMENTS
Your stupid, worthless, you are a loser or you never get it done.
Certainly such marks hurt a child's self-esteem. It is important for parents to encourage their children to believe in themselves.
I will leave you I'll put you aside. You will wake up and you will never find me. I'll just disappear.
This will make it harder for the child to leave, while the people he loves will leave because of it. When a child goes upstairs, this belief subconsciously becomes ingrained in his mind.
Don't let all future trust relationships leave them at 8am on promises. If you do, I'll buy it from you or take you there next time, but they won't. When parents promise not to keep them, the child loses confidence. This makes the child feel cheated.
Making false promises is a great way to teach a child not to trust others and life. To conclude, even words are not physically harmful, they can be extremely harmful to psychological and emotional well-being.
Childhood is an essential part of every human life. Our childhood shapes our behavior and our personal beliefs.
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