Love is like a drug, it's addictive most at times and relationships are sometimes life itself. However, people change, situations occur and the circle of life goes through new changes as well.
It is impossible not to have fights in a relationship, there must be a disagreement which might lead to break-ups and this is just living life itself. When these situations of break up or heartbreaks occur, it looks almost impossible to get over the situation. Most at times it come with real heartaches, pains, tears and depressions. Sometimes it takes away your will power and drain all your energy, but the simple truth is, you can overcome this.
Here are 6 Ways to Overcome Heartbreak, or Breakups in a Relationship:
1. Accepting the Heartbreak Feelings:
Overcoming heartbreaks or breakups demands lots of energy, patience, work, and time. Forcing yourself or accepting the counsel of others to get over it will only make it worst for you. You might think you are over it, but then have a flashback or a rethink of those moments you have with this person, the pains, and feelings will crawl straight back.
It can take a while, and that's okay, but then allow yourself go through it. At this time, it is wise to talk to someone about the feelings, like a good friend.
Don't push out the feelings that hurt you, when you think about that person. Allow yourself go through it, that's where the healing comes from. Let yourself cry, if you feel like, it. You are crying for yourself. This will help you release the grief of the future you imagined with that person.
2. Get Rid of that Energy.
Get rid of that energy that stick around like a glue, especially when you are feeling a lot of anger, sadness, anxiety, grief, depression, are all energies that want to be released from your body, so let it all out.
One sure way of getting the energy out is to get and keep on moving. Go for a run, play your favorite music through your headphones or via speakers loud, while singing and shouting on top of your voice.
Hang out with friends, laugh over your intentions you have towards that person. They all help you sleep better and become better.
3. Forgive Yourself and That Person.
Holding grudges or to the past won't do you good. Forgiveness is not about the other person alone, it's also for YOU. In fact, the definition of forgiveness here, is to stop hating, feeling angry or blaming someone who has hurt you intentionally or unintentionally.
Understand that not all relationships end up in marriage. Some of them are life lessons, and most at times it's for your personal development as well. Most breakup are necessary especially when both persons aren't a good fit.
By forgiving yourself and the person, you break the chains that are binding you, and allow yourself to live a better life with the person you are meant to be with and with whom ever hurt you.
4. Be Real With Yourself.
Be honest and real with yourself if truly, you want to get over a broken heart, break up or if you have secret hopes that the two of you will get back together. While this is not wrong in many ways, although if the relationship is over, it will definitely impede your progress and will of moving on.
Remember there is a reason you broke up. Be honest with yourself and the relationship for what it was, not just what you remember it as being.
5. Get Back To Your Personal Power.
Take back, or get back to your personal power as soon as possible. You cannot control what your ex does or doing, but you can control your own thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviors.
You can choose to see this relationship as a blessing in disguise. It was not just there to cause pain and heartaches. It was there to help you evolve and grow through life journey, learn to love, and learn to let go.
Love and let go, just as we live and die. This is the single most important thing we are meant to learn in this life.
6. Be Outstanding for Yourself
Get back to being amazing, outstanding, and fun full. Get a piece of paper and Write some amazing things you can do to help you get back to your strong grounded self.
Call a friend, hangout, take a hot or cold shower, go for a long walk while listening to your favorite playlist, clean out your emails, chats, pictures, and stuff that take you back to those memories. Get some self-help books, get into business and be successful.
Don't allow this breakup to continue hurting you by hardening your heart and closing off to new love. Get out there. Meet with friends. Live. Laugh. Love. Be happy.
The secret to getting over a breakup or heartbreak lies within you. You have got the will power to be the best of you; but If you find yourself coming back with the same type of person; then commit yourself to self discovery and change your lifestyle pattern of dealing with people.
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