Breakups can be heartbreaking. They can drain one emotionally and bring about painful moments with loads of questions. Being single after being in a relationship can bring on a wallowing spell if not treated right. If you're wondering what not to do after a breakup – this is it.
Once your good relationship ends with someone, you need to set your mind to avoiding some of the following as it is wise not to do anything stupid and move on with your life.
1. Don’t keep any lines of communication open:
Do not, for any reason, reach out to your ex! You don't need closure. There's nothing left to talk about. Do not even give them an option to contact you.
2. Not establishing boundaries:
It’s sometimes easy to avoid crossing paths with an ex-partner after a breakup. But if you live in a small town or know a lot of the same people, you might have a harder time completely separating your lives.
Setting clear boundaries for future contact can help make the breakup easier for you both.
3. Don't compare yourself to their new person:
So you two weren't a match. That's OK! Just don't beat yourself up if you see that they're happy with someone else. Their happiness says nothing about your worth as a person — all it says is that they've found someone they are more compatible with, which you're more than capable of doing, too.
4. Don’t rush yourself:
Feeling empty after a breakup is to be expected, but that is no excuse to make poor decisions. Don’t try to get a new partner within days of breaking up with your ex. Instead, work on yourself and take time to heal.
5. Never let your ex sleep with you:
Sleeping with them won't bring them back. So getting down together with them will only make matters worst as you will be thrashed once their urge is satisfied. Also, don't try to be a close friend with your ex until you have completely gotten over it.
6. Think about ending your life:
It is normal for people going through hard times to have suicidal thoughts especially if they think they cannot bear the pain anymore. It is not the end of your world, and there are still more reasons to live. If you quit life now, you would miss greater opportunities and better times ahead.
7. Drown yourself in destructive habits:
Don't let a breakup lead you to alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, and sleeping with different partners every night. This does not really solve anything. Instead, you are just harming yourself.
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