Marriage is just as wide as the milestones are arriving. This is your spouse! For a lifetime! And as such, there are some fundamental life moves that you should try to make before you walk down the aisle, just to make sure that you get into your marriage as responsible and self-conscious as you can be.
GO ON A BLIND DATE
It's just one of those things that every woman can do at least once.
CREATE A LIFE THAT YOU LOVE *WITHOUT* A PARTNER
That way, when he shows up, you're grounded. You don't rely on him, so you're more likely to meet someone who loves you so your passions.
CREATE A LIST OF FIVE VALUES IT'S IMPORTANT YOUR PARTNER HAS
Say , for example, that having a partner that follows a sustainable lifestyle is absolutely crucial to you. Put it on the list as a reminder not to compromise on your core values.
Disclaimer:When you feel that your expectations are changing and that what you thought was a deal breaker value isn't really a deal breaker value anymore, change your list by all means. It isn't set in stone. But if the guy you 're going down the aisle with right now doesn't meet one of the conditions on your list — and you still believe it's important — then maybe it's time to re-evaluate your relationship before you do.
LEARN HOW TO BE ALONE WITHOUT BEING LONELY
Try having dinner once a week or planning a night a week just for you. You 're going to find that whatever you want to do in those moments is what you really want to do. And it's crucial to know how to "find your chill" because it means that you don't need to feel whole outside of validation — and you don't put unfair expectations on your partner to keep you entertained.In exchange, you are likely to inspire your partner to follow his interests, which will build a healthy interdependent relationship. It's better to rely on each other in equal measure than to have a heavy lifting performed by one guy, which is likely to create friction down the line.
...BUT CREATE TIME AND SPACE IN YOUR LIFE FOR A RELATIONSHIP
You know the whole idea of "If you build it, they 're going to come?" The same goes for your love life: if you make room for a relationship in your life, you 're much more likely to find that one is going to fall into place. And if you've got an S.O. But don't invest enough time or effort in your partnership, chances are you won't have it for a long time to come.
AGREE ON HOW YOU AND YOUR PARTNER WILL HANDLE YOUR FINANCES
You might've been handling your own money for a while now, but once you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, working out how to share a bank account can be difficult.Discuss financial biggies (any potential debt you need to manage, what you're comfortable paying for rent or mortgage, what the price cut should be to discuss a boost purchase, how much you want to try to save each month, etc.) in advance so you know what you're dealing with from the get-go.
TALK TO YOUR FIANCÉ (A LOT!) ABOUT YOUR SHARED FUTURE
Will you both work in your ideal world? Where would you be living? Would you have children like that? These are all important things to learn before you enter into a lifetime partnership not after that.
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