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How to stop thinking about your ex


What does it mean when you can't stop thinking about your ex? When you can't stop thinking about your ex because you are obsessed about him or her, there is solution to your addiction it is called the indefnit rule. The time spent following this rule will allow you to let go of your ex one day at a time and make you feel better without your awareness.





Why am I still thinking about my ex so much? For most part, men and women do move on with their lives after romantic breakup. In the end, it seems that thinking favourably about your ex is a sign that you still haven't gotten over the breakup at the same time ruminating over your romantic past could be keeping from moving on.





How long does it take to stop thinking about your ex? Studies suggest that people start to feel better around three months after breakup. One study found that it takes three months and eleven days before an average person feels ready to date again after a major breakup.




Cut off contact. Yes, no contact rule is harsh and extremely difficult, but it will pay off at the end. The no contact rule speeds up healing and moving on process, especially compared to those who attempt to remain friends.



Love again. This is the ultimate way to get over your ex even though your past relationship didn't work it shouldn't stop you from loving again. Try not to close your heart to a new possibility of love that is better than the previous one.



Lets say you compulsively send text message to your ex, compulsively check your phone for messages from him or her, compulsively check his or her social media sites. In this case the triggers of your compulsive behavior are your phone and computer. Should you hand over your computer and phone to a friend to hold on to for a while? No that's not practical and you are just avoiding the trigger which is unlikely to help. Instead keep your phone and computer around, but resist the urge to text your ex or to check whether he or she texted you. Resist or delay the urge to stalk his or her social networking sites.





let go.let go of memories and the things that reminds you of him or her. I know it's hard to do but if you are serious about forgetting your ex, you need to courageously let go of everything that connects you including the memories. Stop reminiscing about your good times together because it would only hurt you a lot.



Make new memories. To get over your ex out of your system you have to create new memories. If you visited some places together in the past, you need to go to a new spot that you have never been before. Better yet, go to somewhere you went together but this time do it better with your loved ones and friends. Eat foods that you have never tasted before, try different sports. Do something you never. Thought you'd do like, rock climbing, skydiving, or anything, you may discover many more things that you are capable of, things you never thought you could do.



Put it into writing. It's not all the time you can call a friend to your side and cry outside your agony. For this reason, you need to find another way to let out your burden by keeping a journal, opening a blog is one helpful way you can pour out your pain through writting until you have released everything from your chest.





Divert your attention to productive things. One way to push the pain away is by keeping your ex off your thoughts whenever he or she starts creeping into your mind, find something else to focus on. You can clean your room, study for upcoming exams ,anything just to keep your self busy keeping yourself constantly busy can also be effective to forget your e. You can use planner or timetable to plot your schedule for each day. See to it that you leave no room for idleness, the time when loneliness will be creeping in again.

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