Most times, we want to compliment our partners but more often than not we don’t realise our observation or comment could sound like a nasty backhanded compliment sometimes. And most probably, we’re totally clueless about how insensitive we sound when we say these things. Here are ten things that men don't want to hear from their partners.
1 “I hate my ex”
Realise that if you “hate” your ex, it could indicate to your partner that you have strong feelings for your ex; even if they are negative. No matter how dreadful your ex was, the healthy thing is to move on and not hold a grudge against him.
2 “Be a man”
In times when gender roles and standards are evolving; your guy definitely doesn’t need to “man up” or “be a man.” If your guy is going through something on the personal front and is showing you his vulnerable side; don’t tell him to “man up” or “be a man.”
3 “Your friend is kinda hot!”
It’s great to appreciate beauty, but refrain when it’s your beau’s close friend, it’ll give rise to unnecessary drama. Imagine how you’d feel if he told you that he finds one of your friends hot; terrible, right?
4 “Prove how much you love me”
Let’s admit this is probably our insecure and vulnerable side speaking, but it’s still not justified. The fact that you’re in a happy healthy relationship should suffice, don’t ask him to prove it to you.
5 “I can help you shop!”
This might seem like a sweet gesture on the surface but what you’re really implying is that you don’t like his dressing style or wardrobe. Let him dress the way he chooses to, no matter how much it irks you.
6 “Sometimes you tend to remind me of my ex”
Why would you ever say that, girl? Drawing comparisons to your ex will never help and it’s a pointless remark. No matter how close your partner and you are; comparing him to your ex will just make him feel that there’s a part of you that’s still stuck in the past.
7 “Your friends or me?”
Girl, if you’re in a healthy relationship, these words must never be uttered! It’s not fair to ask him to pick or make him feel guilty for having a boy’s night out.
8 “You’re going grey or you’ve gained weight”
Your heart may be in the right place because you want your guy to take good care of himself but by telling him either of these things you’re being mean to him. Just imagine how terrible you’d feel if he mentioned your weight or your greying tresses!
9 “It’s so thoughtful that you remembered”
It’s a common belief that men don’t remember dates or other relationship milestones because, well they’re men, and not perceived as “thoughtful and caring” as women. In reality, men do take notice, even of the supposedly small things and it’s rude and insensitive to give him a backhanded compliment for it.
10 “Shut up”
Lastly, unless you’re joking around, these two words send an unkind message to your beau; that you’re not interested in his opinion and that what he says doesn’t matter to you. Be respectful towards each other and stay away from these words, no matter how easily they come to you.
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