Even when he’s treating you like you’re nothing, it can still be hard to break away from a guy you’re really into. Whether he’s just a crush or you’ve been in a committed relationship with him for the past few years, sometimes your heart is just so wrapped around him that you keep trying to make things work even when he doesn’t seem to care if you’re around or not. But no matter how much you adore him, this is why you need to force yourself to break the emotional ties that bond you to the guy who doesn’t actually care about you or your happiness:
1. It won't make him change his mind.
It doesn’t matter what you say or how often you say it ù if he doesn’t care about you now, it’s not going to change any time soon. Even if you’re giving your all, he’s unlikely to wake up one day and realize what he’s letting go. Sometimes we think that if we just try a little harder or care a little more, it’ll make all the difference, but the reality is you’re almost always better off doing the opposite when it comes to men like this.
2. Do not call, text, email or facebook stalk them.
Do not try to insert yourself into their world to try and get validation from them. Do not spend your time focusing on what they are or aren't doing, who they are with...or really anything about their current situation if possible.
3. Accept your feelings.
Sometimes you may find yourself trying really hard to stop caring but it isn't helping at all. It might be because you are not doing it the right way and this usually happens when you try to hide your feelings. You must accept your feeling and allow yourself to feel them until the lose power. Trying to fool yourself that is not painful will bring you nothing but more pain. Accept that you love that person unconditional and it is painful to let go. Don't let the ruin you, not anymore.Yes you are heartbroken but that doesn't mean you have no integrity left. You are a human being who deserves respect and love. You can feel the pain right now but you cannot let the pain overwhelm your life and take all the right thing from you.
4. Accept the reality.
It doesn’t matter if you’re trying to unlove a person you had a labelled romantic relationship with or a person who was never truly yours, if you’re wondering how to stop caring about someone, the first step is always to look the truth directly in the eyes and do your best to accept it. Whatever you had with this person has reached its end and they aren’t coming back, as much as you’d like them to.
5. Remember this is all part of life.
As harsh as it may sound, heartbreaks are a part of life and something we’ve all been through at some point. Afterall, this is not the first time you’re feeling this way and, I assure you, it won’t be the last either. The person you love has the right not to love you back and you can’t make them feel any differently.
6. Start seeing other people
Starting to see other people is a great way to help you get to grips with how to stop caring about someone. This is because by seeing other people you may actually find another person that you do care about just as much as that someone you are trying to move on from. We often forget when we have strong feelings for someone that there may be another person out there that we love just as much, if not more.
7. Focus on what you can control.
As much as we like to think it so, we cannot change other people, only ourselves. You can’t make someone care about you if they don’t want to. The most you can do in situations where you are dealing with people who don't care about you is to find out why it bugs you so much. It's an opportunity for you to grow from it.
8. Cut all ties.
You know how they say, “Out of sight, out of mind,” right? Well the next and maybe the most important step you need to take in this process of forgetting someone you love is breaking all possible ties with them. It’s not that you should use the no contact rule to get your ex to come back to you or for them to understand how much you mean to them.
You need to focus on being compassionate towards yourself and reminding yourself that you are enough, and that you have a lot to offer. By developing strong and healthy self-image, you will start to make better decisions, and better relationships. When you decide that you must be treated with respect, hold other people to that. No, you can't make them respect you...but if they behave disrespectfully...give them consequences. Do not remain in a relationship with someone who puts you down, degrades you or otherwise sees you as disposable. Ask for respect, and if you don't get it, walk away from that person and do not continue to engage with them.
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