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4 Things That'll Make A Relationship Last Even In Difficult Times

When it comes to relationships, truly no one is an expert, even relationship coaches, therapists, and so-called experts do not have all the answers when it comes to what makes relationships or marriages work.

However, as humans, it has been proven that the best way we learn is through experience, by doing the same thing every day and consistently only makes perfect, and when you're perfect at doing a particular thing that when you're given the tag “experienced.”

In a relationship, you don't need the tag experienced, or does anyone need to see you as a professional in courtships before they can decide to date or marry you. Nah, it doesn't work that way. Researching this topic carefully, I came up with just 4 things a partner has to do to have a lasting relationship even in difficulties.

1. Compromise

Turning to the dictionary, to help readers understand better what the word Compromise stands for, I was surprised to see the dictionary in one of its explanations included that the secret of any happy marriage is compromise.

What is compromise when it comes to relationship?:

(I) an agreement or settlement that is reached by two sides to settle a dispute for peace to reign. 

(II) the acceptance of standards that are lower than desirable.

(III) doing something out of one's principle in order to ensure there's peace in a marriage, relationship.

With these explanations, it's obvious what compromise means in a relationship, if a couple is always at loggerheads, and one refuses to compromise or succumb to the other's standard or principle, then that relationship will never know peace and won't survive in times of difficulties. So for a happy marriage to happen, either of the couples has to compromise. 

2. Co-dependency 

Is defined as excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of illness or battling addiction.

In my definition, Co-dependency is when two partners need each other to function properly, it also involves emotional attachment that makes either one of the partners vulnerable when the two separates. 

So, for me, co-dependency can be a great tool to make a relationship stand the test of time and difficulties, if two people depend on each other to function properly then they're what you can describe as two becoming one. So definitely it'll be hard to see couples who have a co-dependency relationship, fighting or trying to separate from each other.

3. Trust 

I won't turn to the dictionary to define the word Trust. For me, trust is a very strong belief that one has for someone or something.

For example, like a strong belief, a girlfriend has in her heart that a guy she loves and currently dating will never hurt her in any way, both physically and emotionally.

But when this guy hurts her physically, that is when he beats her up, and then cheats on her with another girl which will hurt her emotionally, then this strong belief she has for him will be broken.

Trust is very essential to growth, and sometimes it's the life of a relationship. It often defines how long and healthy a relationship will be. Once trust is broken in a relationship, even if the two are still together, deep down that relationship is never the same.

To have a relationship that will last even in a very difficult time, try to protect the Trust you two have for each other at all cost.

4. Loyalty 

(I) Loyalty is the act of binding yourself intellectually or emotionally to a course or person.

For me this is the perfect definition of Loyalty, imagine being in a relationship, and you made a decision to bind yourself, I mean to stand with one person through thick and thin, come rain, come shine, even in the most difficult situations.

This is what loyalty is all about, it is one of the ingredients that keep a relationship alive and forever. You're dedicated to one person even in hardship, to defend them even when the world is against them. Loyalty is hard to come by but when it exists in a relationship, nothing done on this earth will destroy that relationship. 

Lastly, What does a good relationship need? It will vary from one person to another, but most people would probably agree that respect, companionship, mutual emotional support, sexual expression, economic security, and, often, childbearing, are all important parts of an adult relationship.

The above-mentioned are 4 Things I Know That'll Make A Relationship Last Even In Difficulties, and if you agree with them please apply them in your relationship and see the changes it will bring.

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