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Is There A Right Age To Get Married?

Is there a “right” age at which to get married? Although there is no magic number, if you pose this question to anyone, you will likely get a strong opinion. Perhaps in large part due to their personal experiences, people tend to be very adamant in their opinions regarding the right age to marry.

Perhaps you’ve experienced this personally. I know “You got married so young!” or asked “Why did you get married so young?” I would probably be very wealthy right now.

And if I’m honest, I have asked people these kinds of questions myself or at least thought them. I’ve wondered at peoples’ decisions to marry at, say, 19, or, on the other end of the spectrum, to wait to get married till, say, 30. You can find a myriad of articles online arguing for getting married young and also waiting till you are older. Both sides make some good points.

The point is, though, that nearly everyone has an opinion on this subject and it’s easy to think your own way of planning your marriage is the right one,however, we should recognize that the best age to get married will be different for each couple.

“So, I’ve put some thought into this, and I want to add to this conversation by saying that the perfect age to get married has nothing to do with the years you’ve lived, “Call me crazy, but I don’t think you can quantify a person’s preparedness for marriage simply based on how many years they’ve been alive".

Instead of looking at readiness for marriage from the perspective of age, we should instead focus on God’s timing and how that intertwines with the experiences and life outlook of the people involved.

Sometimes someone who is in their 30’s or 40’s may be mature, have a steady career and seem to be settled and perfectly ready for the commitment of marriage, and yet God’s timing may dictate a different path. Conversely, someone who is still in college may meet and marry his/her spouse before any of life’s other big questions may be answered and this can be God’s timing too.

“If you’re truly seeking God and living out His story for your life, I would venture to say that the perfect age to get married is exactly the age that you are when you get married". I think we need to be really careful with the formulas and anecdotes that we offer people in the pursuit of the marriage because the truth is, God has never been one to conform to our cookies cutter answers. He tends to crush the norms and shatter all our expectations, and I’m so glad He does because our worlds can be so small when left to ourselves. At the end of the day, God’s Word calls us to one thing: to love others, ourselves and Him above all else".

How about you? At what age did you get married and/or what do you think is a good measure of someone’s readiness for marriage?

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