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6 Tips on How to be a Better Listener in Your Relationship

Listening well is essential for opening your heart to your partner and fostering theirs. It might be tough to sit down and actually listen to one another when there are so many difficulties, duties, technology, and people pushing at us from all sides. Listening can be enjoyable, but it can also be difficult at times. You might want to tune out and instead lose yourself in your favorite pastime or delve into the list of to-do items you need to do before the day is done. However, in order to have a happy, healthy marriage, you must actually listen to your partner with understanding and generosity. Today, we're going to show you six techniques to be a better listener to your spouse.

1. Put your phone down.

It is critical that you put your phone down when speaking with your girlfriend or boyfriend, especially if the conversation is crucial. This demonstrates that you respect the speaker and are attentive to what he or she has to say. During a face-to-face conversation, it is impolite to continuously checking or fiddling with one's phone. Turn your phone to silent mode to improve your listening skills. Those e-mails and notifications can wait.

2. Listen without beeg bias.

You both have strong opinions, and it can be difficult to set those aside in favor of simply listening to one another. When you have opposing viewpoints on particular matters or are stuck in a deadlock during a fight, listening without bias is beneficial. Set your opinions aside long enough to hear what your partner has to say, then use empathy to try to understand why. This does not imply that you must conform your viewpoint to that of your partner. What it means is that your spouse deserves to be heard, and you won't be able to do so if you're filtering what they say through your own prejudice.

3. Listen more often

Do you want to learn how to listen better? The first piece of advice is to pay attention more often. Perhaps you are so used to doing the talking that you have forgotten how to listen. It's never a bad idea to swallow one's pride and extend one's patience just long enough to hear what your partner has to say. When you train yourself to listen more frequently, it will become second nature when you're talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend.

4. Show that you understand

Show that you've heard and understood what they're saying by reflecting back what you've heard and how you think they're feeling. This can save a lot of time when it comes to settling conflicts since it gives you both the opportunity to clear up any misunderstandings right away.

5. Make eye contact. 

Imagine conversing with someone who never looks at you and instead looks at everything else. Making and maintaining eye contact is crucial for an effective listener. It demonstrates to your girlfriend or boyfriend that you are completely concentrated on the topic at hand. You don't have to look them in the eyes to accomplish this; depending on the situation, a simple casual gaze will suffice. Making eye contact with the person speaking also sends a powerful message to the speaker that you are ready to listen.

6. Listening requires non-judgment

You could feel compelled to defend yourself or prove your point of view, especially if someone is criticizing you, your beliefs, or something you did. Unfortunately, that isn't paying attention either. Instead of feeling defensive, kindly ask them to utilize "I" statements so you can genuinely hear what the concerns are.

Bottom line

We respond and react to circumstances far too rapidly, especially when our partners are simply trying to be heard and noticed. Before really sitting with their spouse, they try to fix, problem solve, criticize, offer advice and opinions, and take a stand.

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