Why Some Ladies May Never Get Married - A Thoughtful Revelation and Insight (Opinion)
Marriage is a beautiful thing, and it becomes even more beautiful when two persons that truly love each other, are the partners in the marriage relationship.
The marriage institution was established by God after creation when He found that man was lonely, He decided to send man into a deep sleep, took one of his ribs, and enclosed it in flesh.
When man who was called "Adam" saw the woman, he was very pleased and exclaimed "this at last is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman, for she was taken out of man" (Gen 2:23).
When two people fall in love, there is often that feeling of joy, and happiness to be around the one you love.
God who made the institution of marriage has destined each one for a mate:
"Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded, and his spirit it hath gathered them". (Isaiah 34:16 KJV).
"Search in the book of Yahweh, and read: not one of these will be missing. none will lack her mate. For my mouth has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them." (Isaiah 34:16 World English Bible).
"Seek out of the book of Jehovah, and read, One of these hath not been lacking, None hath missed its companion, For My mouth -- it hath commanded, And His spirit -- He hath gathered them." (Isaiah 34:16 Young's Literal Translation).
My belief is that no matter who you are, there is a partner for you, in accordance with the word of God.
But why are some ladies finding it difficult to get married today?
I am about to share with you some helpful tips why some ladies may never get married. This is because on their own parts, they have used their hands to bring the trouble upon themselves rather than saying they were not destined to be married, or there was no partner for them:
(1). Due to Her Own Decision:
Like their male counterparts, some ladies can choose not to get married for one reason or the other. Most common reasons why ladies may choose not to be married, is for religious reasons, because they do not want any distractions between them and their walk with God. A lady can choose to be a religious, a nun or a reverend sister. Such a lady is not expected to be married. That is her personal decision and no one can change it.
(2). Due to Search for Mr. Right:
Everyone have qualities and attributes they want to see in their life long partner. While some may prefer tall men, some others may prefer the opposite, some ladies may prefer to marry men who are already well to do, while others may never mind. This search for Mr. right, is one of the reasons why some ladies may never get married, as the qualities they are looking for in a man, may not be realizable in any man. All humans have one flaw, imperfection, or the other. Sometimes, the attributes a lady is looking for in a man may be so stringent.
She may be too focused looking out for those already made materials, while she may not be looking in the direction of her originally destined partner who is seeking for her attention, till her youthful years are passed when no man would want to look in her direction. Women have their prime, and child-bearing age. A typical African man considers childbearing as one of the core reasons for getting married; so who would want to get married to a lady that has passed her child bearing age?
(3). When Their Forbidden Apple is Easily Accessible
Contravening the law of God often have some dire consequences. God sees and knows what we humans can never understand. When He sets principles, it is for our benefit, A father may tell a child not to dip his hand in fire, if the child heeds the instruction and desists from so doing, good for that child, but if he snobs the father and does otherwise, the fire will definitely burn his hand.
So it is with the principles and precepts of God. Some ladies cheaply give the forbidden fruit meant to be consumed only in marriage to their boyfriends, and men they are not married to, simply because he promised them marriage, or emphatically declare his love to them. There is no assurance that he will actually marry you even if you let him eat of the forbidden fruit before marriage; if he marries you afterward, good for you, but you have started your relationship on a very wrong footing, that you are not a virtuous woman after all. You've contravened God's principles for marriage, which often has consequences.
After David slept with Bathsheba Uriah's wife, God forgave him when he begged God with a broken spirit, but that did not stop the immediate family of David from the consequences of his sin. In broad day light, and in the eyes of all Israel, his own son slept with his concubine on top of the roof, he almost lost his throne to Absalom, his daughter was raped by his own son, and strife, jealousy and bloodshed set in in the family of David.
Apart from these likely spiritual consequences, so many men are out there in relationships not for marriage purposes, and they will dump you as a lady and leave when they have acquired what they want from you. So be wise. If you are not easily giving away your forbidden fruit to the man with whom you're in a relationship, it gives him the impression that you're a wife material, and you will not do so even if he marries you.
He may threaten you of breakup if you refuse him the forbidden fruit, but even such breakup is good for you, since you will leave two indelible impressions; firstly, you've created the impression that you're a wife material, secondly, God who is the author of marriage is happy with you, so even if that man leaves, know that such a man is not destined for you. God will not give you what will make you sin against Him. This is how you sieve out real suitors from men who are just around you to eat your forbidden fruit and leave, so be wise, and do not be the cause of your "unmarriageableness".
(4). Due to Lack of Character:
Though I'm writing this point now, it is one of the most important thing in any human being. The core thing that distinguishes humans from animals is character. Take it from man, and there is no difference between him and the latter. Men are able to detect so quickly the character of a woman, and some men (like myself lol, :) ) can detect so much from you even before saying a word with you. There is actually more signal conveyed with your non-verbal actions than what you actually say, that's why it's popularly said "action speaks louder than voice". No man want to spend the rest of his life with a woman who lacks character. Character is so important that more than half of Proverbs 31 was used to talk about the blessedness of a virtuous woman - Proverbs 31:10-31. Lack of character is one of the major reasons for failed marriages today. So when a man notices a lady's character in bad light, he will definitely desist from marriage talks with such a one.
The way you are dressed speaks volumes about you, hence the saying, "you are addressed the way you are dressed". In the desperate search for marriage partners nowadays, a lot of ladies dress anyhow, forgetting they are doing it the wrong way. You can only attract wrong partners with an indecent dressing, men that are only willing to get into your pants and eat the forbidden fruit from you. Godly men, and men of morals have standards they look out for in women of materials, and your dressing conveys a million information to them about your kind of person. Are you hoping to be married? then dress decently.
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