Marriage is sweet only if there is peace and love. What brings peace in a marriage? You would ask. We can say that the main reason peace reigns in many marriages is because the marriages are built on true love. But I also want to tell you that no matter how much the couple love themselves, if there is no tolerance, mutual understanding and perseverance, the marriage may fail after losing its peace.
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There are many disputes that may arise in a marriage. Such disputes can destroy a marriage if care is not taken. Many healthy marriages that are thriving today have passed through many of these challenges. The secret to the health of such marriages is usually the way those involved handle and manage them. Gone are the days when couple run to their individual parents over minor disputes in their marriage. Mr_Counselor has explained how you and your partner can solve your marital disputes without disturbing the peace of your parents in this article.
1. Do away with your bad friends, then make new good ones.
Bad friends can influence or even induce marital disputes. They may tell you that your wife is not good for you. Or that your husband does not treat you well. If you read meaning into this, you may begin to feel bad. This can bring about disputes in your marriage which can even lead to breakup or divorce.
But if you surround yourself with good friends who will encourage and influence you positively and advise you as well, you will solve and also prevent marital disputes even without the knowledge of your parents.
2. Treat every single dispute with love.
If you love your partner, you will always want to make them happy. In a situation whereby their is a dispute in your marriage, treat it with love. Don't be too sensitive. Be considerate as always as possible.
3. Value your spouse's happiness over your own.
This may not go well with many people, but it is the best way to solve or prevent marital disputes. If you value your spouse's happiness over your own, you would not want to see them sad or unhappy.
If your spouse's happiness is more important to you than your own happiness, you will treat or handle any form of marital dispute in their favour. This is a good way to settle marital problems without involving your parents.
4. Put your marriage ahead of everything.
The health and strength of your marriage should matter to you more than anything else. You need to put your marriage ahead of everything. It should be the most important thing you care about. Of course, if your marriage is shattered, you can't concentrate to do other things. Just like the way you can't chase after a rat when your house is on fire, you can't do other important things if your marriage is not in order.
5. Be your spouse's boyfriend or girlfriend all over again.
This is requesting you to start your love journey from the beginning by taking corrections from the mistakes you have made so far in the marriage. If your marriage is going south, especially if you think you can't control the disputes, give up everything and build your marriage from scratch.
Hang out with your spouse like new lovers would do. Treat them with respect and love. Do not take the disputes too serious, they will die off with time.
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