When we like someone, our brain switches off, all we can think about is spending as much time with them as possible. You can't wait to be a couple and nurture your commitment, but is it really a good idea to start dating right now? You see, there are a few things that should happen before you commit to a guy, and if you don't pay attention to them, you could end yourself in a relationship that is doomed from the start. Because you're head over heels love that guy, your brain can't always see things properly, which is why you should take a break and consider the following seven points.
Talking is critical. It's important to be able to have a normal conversation with someone, but you should also be able to openly discuss what you want out of a relationship, your hopes and dreams, and all the other cheesy/serious stuff. You're probably not matched up if you can't talk about those topics. And if you do talk about them and then feel as if he shuts them down or you disagree on major life issues, you're almost certainly not a match.
If you can't trust your girlfriend or boyfriend to go out with his friends when you're stuck at work, you shouldn't date them. Trust is the foundation of all relationships, and once it is lost, so is love. Sure, everyone fears his or her significant other cheating, but accusing your boyfriend or girlfriend of cheating before it occurs makes you appear jealous and insecure. If your partner is conversing with someone at a party, there's no need to be jealous. In the end, it's your partner who is f*cking up, not you, if your partner is cheating on you.
3. You should to be over your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend.
Some people argue that some feelings for our ex-partners never go away, and this is true in some cases. But there's a difference between cherishing your first love and continuing to communicate with your ex-boyfriend in the hopes of reuniting. It may not make a big difference to you, but it's not fair to the new person if you're still pining for the previous one. Even if you don't want him back, unresolved emotions can cause problems in a new relationship. It's critical to allow yourself time to recover before moving on to the next step.
Respect is the key word.” There's no reason to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't regard you as an equal. When it comes to gifts and surprises, as well as introducing each other to your families, mutual respect is essential. If she's in trouble, you're in trouble as well, and the two of you must work together to find a way out. There are a lot more factors that go into making a relationship work, and you still have a lot to learn, but if you make sure the above four things are covered, you'll be well on your way to a successful new relationship.
5. Discuss cheating
You'd think that everyone would agree on what constitutes cheating, but you'd be wrong. A stolen kiss with someone may not be worth mentioning to one person, while flirty texts may be viewed as a major issue by another. The main reason for having this conversation early on in a relationship is that if you have what you consider cheating on the table, it is either less likely to occur or easier to detect if it does. When one person believes the other has crossed a line, but none of this was ever defined in the first place, it's a bit of a mess.
6. Their level of seriousness
Even if you're not looking for a long-term relationship, if you're looking for someone who can keep a relationship going, pay attention to how serious they are about getting to know you. If you're looking for a relationship, you want a partner who is interested in more than intimacy." You want someone who is just as interested in learning about you as you are in learning about your date." It should not be one-sided, but should be reciprocal. Your date may not be serious about dating if all they say about you is how attractive you are.
7. Your atittude
It is important to commit [to a date] only if you feel you are ready to handle diverse views and habits." "It's really about you more than it is about the other person." Your mindset could lead to negativity, which isn't the best way to begin a relationship — or even a friendship."
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