Now we all know suspicion is a natural human reaction to a situation that tells us something could be wrong.
But we also know that undue or unchecked suspicion can and will destroy any relationship.
Suspicion can eat into the most stable relationship, wreck havoc, and destroy it from within.
Which is why we need to mindful of what it can do.
Like a poisonous flower, suspicion can grow, creating with it more and more issues. When you are suspicious, you suspect everything and everyone.
It grows on you – if you allow it to. The idea is to take constrictive steps if you are suspicious; you can address the issue or do something about it.
Some choose just to wait it out and that’s when it grows on you. If unchecked, you can become paranoid and sometimes, suspect for all the wrong reasons.
While everyone gets jealous or suspicious from time to time, experiencing jealousy on a daily basis can be problematic.
When jealousy strikes, people often compare themselves to their rival, they feel threatened, and they imagine the worse case scenario—that their partner or spouse might leave them for someone else (see White & Mullen).
Not only is jealousy unpleasant to experience, but individuals, who are chronically jealous or suspicious, often misinterpret what is going on—taking what might be an innocent event and thinking about it in the worst way possible.
If your partner is also dominating and is suspicious on you (trying to make any kind of pressure on you), then handle it like this.
1. Explain Your Point
Suspecting to talk to someone else while being busy on the phone, doubting chatting with someone else while online, doubting your loyalty, etc. are some of the suspicious habits.
Sometimes partners start bothering you mentally or physically due to this doubt.
If this happens, then the first step is to convince your partner and explain to them that they should have faith in you.
2. Demand For Personal Space
If your partner’s suspicious nature has become a burden for you and you are feeling suffocated in the relationship, then talk to your partner clearly and demand personal space.
In real life, both the partners have a separate existence and different lives. Both humans need their personal space.
So talk to your partner and convince them, not to change things related to personal life.
3. Take Her Out On Double Dates
I know, it sounds lame and totally not required.
But, it’s actually really required. It’s necessary for the simple reason that she knows you have lady friends who are already seeing someone else and you get to be romantic with her around others; show them how much you adore your girlfriend and so on.
It’s very minute and often skipped, but is every bit as important as an intimate date.
4. Hang Out With Her In A Group
The best way to tell whether or not you’re with the right person is to notice how they behave around and with you when you’re in a group.
Notice if she gets too clingy around your friends, or if she turns completely aloof—both are signs of insecurity. Involve her in conversations with friends; especially your female friends—they are where her suspicions lie.
Let her feel like she is a part of your life and social circle; let her get to know your friends, the people you spend most of your time with and why they are important to you.
The more she understands, the lesser her chances of suspecting.
5. Don't Get Defensive About Your Own Behavior
If your partner starts to accuse you of something that's not true, don't feed the fire by getting in an argument right away. Take a step back and evaluate the situation.
If you start to get defensive, your partner will probably misinterpret your reaction or mirror your emotions and get even more angry.
Instead of getting defensive, try to talk to your partner calmly and problem-solve the situation together.
6. Show Extra Affection
After you've discussed their jealous tendencies, try to show your partner extra love during this vulnerable time.
According to eHarmony, this is the time to be generous with your affection.
For instance, touching your significant other more may help her mentally heal faster.
Even though what your partner is feeling might not seem rational to you, you want to be as supportive as possible by showing them how much they mean to you.
7. Don’t let yourself get affected
Amid all the suspicion and misunderstandings, never let yourself get down with it. Try to be the anchor of the relationship you want to keep sailing all your life.
Your sanity and prudence will remain highly critical in re-establishing the foundations of love and trust in your relationship.
8. Have common friends
It is always advisable to make your partner a part of your friend circle, as it keeps them at ease. Friends, this way can act as a great medium to reconcile your relationship.
Both of you can seek their advice whenever you feel uncomfortable to encounter each other for may be the silliest of concerns. After all, what are friends for?
9. Reflect on your actions
If you know, that your partner is protective of you and doesn’t like you being close to the opposite sex (may be some specific people), try to consider their feelings.
This way their insecurities would lower a bit and bring you some peace.
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