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15 Best ways to create a positive relationship with your teenager


1. Be genuine and open.

Discuss dating and sexuality with your adolescent. According to research, the more open and honest you are with your child, the more communication about dating and sexuality will occur. This is critical since it has been discovered that how much parents and teens communicate openly about sex is a good predictor of less adolescent sex. One method through which a better quality parent-teen relationship influences adolescent choices to defer sexual engagement is richer discussions about dating and sexuality. 'Richer talks' refers to communications about your sexual attitudes and ideals, as well as advice and cautions about potentially harmful situations.


2. In your parenting approach, be authoritative rather than authoritarian.

Show an authoritative (rather than dictatorial) parenting approach that combines warmth and firmness. Set high standards and expectations for your teenagers' behavior, and stick to them with consistent discipline. You should, however, provide an environment of acceptance and psychological autonomy in which the teen's beliefs and uniqueness can flourish.

Kids are more likely to make healthier choices online and off when they understand your basic beliefs, have bought into the family rules, and are aware of the penalties for breaking them. There are no promises, but your voice will be heard.

3. Reduce the amount of time you talk and increase the amount of time you listen.

Teens, like us fully evolved individuals, want to be respected and listened to. Be a "safe" and available person for your child to chat to at all times. That doesn't imply you have to accept or agree with everything your kid says, but allowing them to speak freely (without interrupting) allows them to hear their own views spoken out. It also gives them insight into their problem-solving capabilities and limitations. That is something you can utilize to assist them.


4. Keep a close eye on and supervise your teen's activities while remaining sensitive as a parent.

Parental monitoring has been identified as a critical component in reducing teenage problem behavior. Monitoring must be managed with parental sensitivity to avoid becoming overbearing and invading your teen's privacy excessively. Simply being present (before and after they go out, for example) and asking a few easy questions in a neutral (non-accusing) tone might help you keep track of your child's behavior. Too much monitoring and supervision can lead to increased teen problem behavior because teens may rebel and act out in order to express their right to some freedom from parental restraints.


5. Emphasize the positive.

When the opportunity arises, try to begin constructive communication with your adolescent. If you and your teen are having problems with rules, chores, school, classmates, or other issues, talk to them about it, but also try to have good chats with them about other topics. Every interaction does not have to be negative just because there is conflict. Throughout the day or week, make an active effort to include genuine pleasant exchanges so that your kid understands that you are upset with their behavior, not with them as a person.


6. Compliment your youngster when he or she is doing something properly.

Self-esteem is a problem for teenagers. When they aren't dumping on themselves, they may delegate the task to their colleagues. Don't lend your voice to the chorus of discontent. Look for things your children are doing well. Your compliments demonstrate that you pay attention to more than just their flaws. It will help boost their confidence in their abilities.


7. Be honest with yourself.

Fathers and mothers do not always have the most up-to-date information. Accept responsibility for your own blunder and errors. When it's appropriate, apologize. Demonstrate to your children that you, too, are "a work in progress." All we can hope for from ourselves and others is growth rather than perfection.


8. Make time for unplugged family time on a regular basis.

Cook, eat, walk, ride a bike, and bowl. Whatever. The point is that spending time together without screens in the way is a gift that will last a lifetime.


9. Have a good time!

Humor is an excellent stress reliever. Remember, no one stays a teen (or a parent of one) for the rest of their lives! What lessons have you learnt as a parent of a teen that have helped you?


10. Encourage gender roles and behavior to be more flexible.

Teens are under a lot of pressure from their classmates (and occasionally their families) to adhere to what boys and girls "should and shouldn't" do. Early to mid-adolescence has a high level of gender-role rigidity, with boys (in particular) emphasizing the significance of being "masculine." Speak with them about these pressures and their perspectives, and urge them to see how fear of ridicule may influence some of their choices (of friends, sports, etc.). Teens' overly aggressive and controlling behavior is typically a result of their rigid adherence to society's norms, which can be imparted accidentally by parents ("be a man," "tough it out"). Talk about how to respond to teasing in a lighthearted way.


11) Be an active (to a point) participant in your teen's life.

Recognize your child's passions. If they enjoy hockey, if you have the opportunity, take them to a game. If they play hockey, observe them in a non-critical manner. Plan a day when you can all be together to do something special, whether they like opera or ballet. Alternatively, if a film that you both enjoy is broadcast on television, you can watch it together. There aren't many words that need to be said. It's the fact that you're together that counts!


12. Always keep in mind that you are the parent.

Your responsibility is to help your child grow into a self-sufficient, fully functioning adult. It's far more vital to be a clear-eyed, empathetic mentor than it is to be your teen's friend. In any case, they don't require your friendship. Your moral leadership is exactly what they require.


13. Keep your cool in the face of change.

When you're too stressed to think, nothing gets fixed. Take a break until you can reply rationally to something your teen has done.


14. Be respectful of each others' limits.

It might be difficult for parents to give their teenagers more privacy and liberty. However, they will need a lot of opportunities to make mistakes and learn from them in order to develop sound judgment. Encourage them to continue their education.


15. They're always keeping a watchful eye.

You want your child to be dependable, responsible, honest, strong, and kind. Make sure you're living up to those ideals in your own life. While you're at it, chat about the walk while you're out there.


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